i am doing everything in my power not to give in but my entire mind is against me i feel like i am lost and i do not want to give in. i am only on day 6
You solve a part of the problem when you described your urge by the word "Today" You have to believe that urge is a temporary issue, i will never last forever. Pride in yourself, improvement in your mental and physical power, achievement in your life, progression in your job, etc. All these issues lasts forever. If you gave up you may have joy for just some seconds, but for sure you will have shame and regret for many days. Watch your urge as a wave, you may see it going up but make sure it will fade down and hit the chore. Practise your breathing, make it as active process instead of a passive one. You may go out for a walk, or talk to your AP. Just don't stay inside the urge or face it. Stay strong bro and don't let us down.
Staying strong and fighting against urges and the thoughts in mind is far more greater than relapsing and regreting after. I have had your situation 3 days before and I fought from moment to moment. It was hard, it tore me apart. Very close to relapse. But stayed strong.... U r strong.. keep holding..
I'm on day 20 and I think I just hit my long flatline because the past two days, no morning wood or any libido. Right before this had massive urges which are now gone.
this is the best and most important times in your recovery, when the demon is out in the open and giving you the opportunity to face it. Its now that you decide if you'll be successful in this. Giving in is a choice that begins in your head, keep a strong head, and you can kick that demon in the face.
When you feel like PMOing, you have to realize one thing: the feeling is temporary. The feeling can be overcome. We spend way too much time running from these feelings. When we’re running from them, we’re thinking about them. When we’re thinking about them, we’re worrying about them, and when we’re worrying about them we lose sight of the goal and eventually relapse. Not only that, but the more you think about it in general, the more you’ll feel it. Ask yourself this: is it worth it? Is it worth giving up only six days in, so I have to claw myself back to this point, knowing I’ve already lost here before, and fail again? I go into more explanation of what I mean here: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/why-i-think-we’ve-been-going-at-it-all-wrong.218119/ Good luck. We shouldn’t run from PMO, we should face it.
I disagree on this point: if we constantly run, and run, and run from PMO, we eventually will have to rest. When we rest, we are defenseless against PMO and we will no doubt relapse. Furthermore, urges are a natural feeling. Running from our urge to PMO and not learning to control it and face it, may work in the short term, but what about the long term? Wrapping this back to the beginning, we run, and run from PMO but can only run so far before we have to stop. If we can’t face our urges when we stop, we’re almost certain to relapse. So what I’m saying is, why practice getting better at running, when we’re certain to have to face PMO at some point? Why delay the inevitable, instead of prepare for the inevitable? Read more here, where I explained this better: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/why-i-think-we’ve-been-going-at-it-all-wrong.218119/
By point was not to run, i meant he shouldn't only keep in the same circumstance that the urge catched him in, for ex. if you are laying on your couch changing the position to stand up is a way not to face the urge in its strongest manner. For me this is not running, this is a way of driving the battle to a place where the urge is weaker. One urge i could pass only cause i texted my AP, this helped a lot.
Stay strong you got this. Go for a walk. Read a book. Cook a good meal. Exercise. Hang out with friends is very effective. You got this!!!! Dont give up. Pray!!!
