How Stupid Was I All Those Years

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That is what I am coming to notice about my addiction as well. All my anxiety is mostly linked back to this addiction and really no need to feel this way if I learned to control my thoughts as well. This is my first hard mode attempt and is really hard at this point now as well.

I wish you luck and success in your streak as well .. Don’t ever give up...

 

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That what you said about discovering the root problems of what is making us act out like this is correct. That solves the addiction, I think, for most people. At least for myself as well. Need to face problems head on and deal with emotions as well.

The nofap is a tool to help find out was truly beneath ourselves and let it come out into the open and deal with it as well. I for one am happy to stop and yes the withdrawal sucks and it would feel good to do it one more time but not to feel like I did before. Life is much more fulfilling when you deal with things in your life ..

 

I can 100% relate to this. I thought I would naturally quit when I got married. FALSE! When I had kids. FALSE! When I grew up. FALSE! I regret not quitting earlier, but glad I've found the will power to finally tackle this monster now!

 

I actually wish this kind of message could be spread out to more people. I feel lucky that I'm one of the people who was able to quit porn, but I know that for every person like me there are many others who still don't even understand what they're getting themselves into.

That's a good attitude to have. Take things one at a time, and prioritize recovery from porn above all else. It's certainly possible to masturbate too much and that can become a compulsion of its own, but I think porn is the more dangerous enemy. Keep fighting the good fight, and stay strong!

 

Does it mess up your marriage life? How did you feel at your first night? I would love to have a wife that emotionally supported me but I am so anxious to get married.

 

Thank you, brother!
Another positive aspect of quitting, is learning to observe and to be mindful of your thoughts, it surely helps being less upset and overwhelmed about other things, people who are not nice, bad stuff in the news, opinions I don't like, unexpected house problems, catching a cold... all of these things happen, yet I can choose not to allow them to grip me. I'm just learning, and have a lot of training to do, yet I see a way to feel better, that what's important.

 

Controlling the thoughts is all it is. A good person I just met that practices meditation said that thoughts are just that and they mean nothing. Be in the moment and aware and everything goes away..