Hi all, I seem to be caught in this endless cycle of going through the exact same predictable patterns. This has been going on for over 3 years. It basically goes like this: 1. Start a decent streak anywhere from 2 to 6 weeks. 2. Start to see major progress in confidence and libido. 3. Get frustrated with insanely strong urges and edge a bit. 4. Do a relapse. 5. Get a chase urge and relapse again. 6. Binge relapse for a week 7. Continue to relapse every few days for a couple weeks. 8. Give up and hit rock bottom 9. Finally realize that I dont have a choice but to get clean. 10. Go back to step 1. I dont know if others can relate to this. But I'm between step 8 and step 1 right now and I'm desperate. I'm ready to get rid of this addiction. Im ready to become who I want to become. What can I do to make this attempt work. It feels impossible to continue for a whole 90 days and beyond that. I'm willing to do anything or spend any amount of money, except for 2 things get professional/real life help, or completely get rid of my computer for 90 days (its just impractical for that long). Besides that, what are some major steps I can take. I honestly don't care about any other symptoms but I just wanna get rid of this PIED. The other benefits are nice but compared to PIED they are insignificant. Any advice from those that have felt hopeless but had finally been able to break through would be greatly appreciated.
I'd say you have to come up with a written plan with what you are going to do when you get the strong urges at the 6-8 weeks mark. I did so for myself because I made it to 37 days and then relapsed. I'm Catholic, so I don't believe in sex before marriage, so I don't recommend you have sex before marriage, however you might want to think about dating seriously to find a wife. The Church has traditionally taught that one of the purposes of marriage is the "quieting of concupiscience" (controlling of sexual urges). If you are married you are probably going to have sex more frequently than the 2-6 weeks that you are able to last without PMO, and this will help you control your urges. But in marriage you MUST NOT under any circumstances look at porn, women consider this the same as an affair, even though for a man it's more like a drug than a relationship.
Why is getting professional help not an option? I've had councilling long before which was a massive help in getting to the bottom of why I use porn and the tools to address. Obviously going it alone is not working.
I agree, don't rule out professional help. I am Catholic so I talk to priests in confession (both celibate and married priests in the Eastern Catholic Church) about this problem. It helps to get things off your chest and sometimes you get some good advice.
ght. Thanks for your input. I am not married. I am also not a virgin or religious, but I respect where your coming from. Professional help is just not an option for me. I just cant do it. Is this impossible to do solo?
