So, I have known her for a year now and chatted to her on facebook at least 2 to 3 times a week until I met her in person. I am 35 years old and she is 18, so she is almost half my age and she says that she likes me a lot and loves me, etc...! I like her too, but I am concerned that she is so young that she will change her mind later on or something. Anyway, to cut the story short, she came to my place. We hugged a lot, we even kissed for a while. The sad and weird thing is, how in the f... world I couldn't get erected with such a young nice lady that I like, and she likes me too?! I am sick of this ED, I am just sick of it for having it for almost 13 years and it's not getting any better! I just pushed her away today, telling her a bunch of bullshit that we should take things slowly and not do anything in rush, and that I am older than you and maybe you should find someone youger. Basically, she wants me more than I want her.. This ED shit is f... annoying for such a long time, no wonder I am still single and a f virgin at 35! I have a lot of success with women, but when it comes to this ED thing I back away. This is more serious than I thought! So, at day 13 I messed up with porn and masturbation again because I was so frustrated and angry for not getting erected for such a long time. I just don't know what to do about it !!
It'll get better with time. Your brain needs to rewire towards a real life intimacy rather than the dopamine inducing porn process. The longer you go with out porn you will notice better erections and it won't be as much an issue. As far as the girl, not tying to shell out unsolicited advice, but if it's 'right' then pursue it and be open about your issues. The right one will be better for your 'recovery' since it isn't a unhealthy sexual desire that needs fulfilling, but a relationship that needs nurturing. Along with that, the right woman will be more likely to be receptive to you being open and honest about your struggles. I wouldn't start with that in a first date, but you will know when it's right to bring it up. I wish you well on your journey. Keep strong and trust me you aren't alone. Do some research on porn induced erectile distinction (PIED) you'll see how huge an issue it is.
Hey, keep on trying! Those symptoms will start going away after a few weeks, and then you'll be able to see her again. No one said it was easy, but it does get better soon!
Thanks a lot guys! I think I shouldn't have given up and PMO'd, I should've been stronger and said no to it. But as I have mentioned above this thing has been going on for such a long time that sometimes I don't even know what to do with my life anymore. It's hard but as you said I am not the only one struggling with this thing..
