15 years into PMO. I need to find MY LIFE again

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Stand up and fight, man!!

 

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Welcome, and you are definitely not alone. I am 37 and have been PMOing since I was in 6th grade, around 12 or 13. Looking back on how it has negatively affected my relationships, career, and life in general, I realize how toxic this habit, or addiction, really is.

But it is easy to look back and dwell on things in the past. I'm including NoFap in a complete turnaround in my life. Being more positive, eating better, being more active, and just overall having more motivation to actually do things instead of be a couch potato. I think NoFap has helped with this, as far as the energy and clarity I have, but it is also the mindset that I want to make positive changes in general, including NoFap as part of that.

 

Welcome to the community, I've just joined also!
I'm worried this addiction is affecting my relationship and seriously affecting my ability to work - I'm self employed and work from home a lot. Porn is constantly there and there's always the thought of ''ok just one last wank, then I'll quit''.
I've lost entire days, some of the most depressing days of my life.
Here goes, day 1...

 

Welcome to the community! I'm glad that you've decided to take the first steps to kicking this habit for good!

I know all too well the things that you're describing. Those are all things that porn and masturbation does to you, it's horrible the effects that it can have on you. There was a time when I had no idea what was causing all of those things, and I thought maybe it was just me being me. Turns out it wasn't...

Welcome, and good luck @Nwokebiereibeya!

 

I also work from home and have wasted full days online masturbating. When I had an office job I never did it as much as in the last few years when I've been working from home. Not that I wouldn't do it as soon as I got home from work, but working from home has allowed me to do it for hours on end, multiple times a day.

It adds a level of difficulty, that is for sure. I pretty much have this site up all day now though and if I need a break from work I come here and read the threads instead of looking at porn or going to other sites that might have triggers.

 

Stay strong man. I know the 15years agonising thing. Outdoing it myself currently. We can do this.

 

This is a good start

https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/watch-this-if-youre-struggling.232140/

Good luck