Getting it off my back

If they don't seem interested, leave them alone. It not worth either of your time. Focus on yourself and you'll attract more people who will be interested. When you find the right girl, you'll have endless discussions. Also, you miss 100% of the shots that you don't take, so keep trying!

 

First off be proud that u have the courage to approach them.keep trying if they ain't interested it's fine on to the next.
Remember this fact Michael Jordan missed more shots then he made. And he is one the greatest to ever play.

 

You just have to keep trying; be happy you even did that and know you will get the result you want eventually. I love your username; I'm a huge Soundgarden fan.

 

It may be because of the way you approach. What do you say when u approach?

 

yepp just what I thought. Why would a person seem interested when asked time or some information. You have to take a hint from surroundings and approach playfully.

 

Yes I will give you the best advice. It is : none of the tips people give to you or you look from internet will work. The reason is you memorize it and say it, it is not natural and girls smell that kinda stuff from a mile away. The only way you can improve in that topic is practice. When you get a rejection or a person not interested, you should become happy because you found a way that doesn't work. Makes sense?

 

I always succeeded more when I talked about me or something mutual with the girl, I never ask info about a girl in the first conversation, sure there are some girls that like to talk about themselves, but I don't like that kind of types. The types I like is a girl who loves to be leaded and plays games(mind games). They love to hear stories and I like to tell stories so it works for me. Just be fun, man, that easy.

 

From experience: I've almost always failed at approaching girls, especially when I had in mind to chase them. It's a behaviour that leaks neediness, the behaviour of a beggar, of a 3 year old child. Would you like to be approached by a girl that more or less begs for your attention, but you didn't yet even get to know her name? Let alone, by a girl that desperately tries to get a man to validate her existence. I also agree that asking time and info these days is a bit... nah... everyone has smartphones, right?

Here's my 2 cents: it's usually the woman that decides whether a man is worth her time or not, and not the other way around. My goal as a man is to better myself and be the best I can be for society, for the people around me, to be the rock that others rely upon. Women will choose then the man that they think it's worth their time and, even more importantly, reproduction.

I believe we're taught wrongly by the animal documentaries that the males fight and the females then become submissive to the alpha male, the winner. While the reductionist view holds clear, we have to look at the issue under that assumption. First, it is the female that will carry the offspring and she will be very picky. A female bonobo will not mate with a male that's on the 15th hierarchical step, because that guy is depressed and beaten up by the gang and probably cannot prove to be a protector, a safeguard for her offspring. However, she will mate with the leader of the hierarchy because he has proved he can fend off enemies and provide safety.

In a similar manner, a woman is seeking safety and assurance that her offspring will live well (now, in our society today this fails dramatically, indeed). As alpha man, you don't have to beat your chest and scream like Tarzan or push people over, blare loud music from your car speakers or get road rage, big pecs and strong abs. What a man needs to show is confidence that he can be relied upon.

Children chase their mothers because they need their attention for survival. If men chase women, then men show childlike behaviour and that repels women quite a bit: they are not looking to take care of other people's children (ie your mom's child is your mom's child, not hers). So your goal as a man is to show that you do not need a woman by your side, that you can live without them and still be a productive member of society, you're constantly learning, help those in need and teach others. That will make you attractive and then you'll be chosen as a mate. Which will put you in the position to... choose the woman you want to be with.

In conclusion, all my long term relationships were initiated by the women, not by me; they approached me and they asked for me to stay over. I have never been successful at an outright chase. One night stands are not relationships.

 

Well, I would say first of all... don't approach just some random girl. The chance that you will find a girl that you think is interesting (besides the appearance) is probably very low. Oh well, that's the situation at least for me
My recommendation would be to get yourself in an environment where it is likely for you to find a like-minded girl: if you like climbing, start climbing. Then just go to a climbing center and start to talk to people, you have a topic to talk about from the very beginning and it doesn't have to feel like you are approaching anyone... just like you are climbing and want some company. Then if it clicks, it clicks! If not, you got some company anyway. The same goes for all other social sports (however, I don't know so many others except slacklining).

I guess the only time it's a good thing to look for a girl when you drink alcohol is if you want to find a girl whose main interest is to drink alcohol.