DESPERATION

Definitely don't start doing things such as 'cutting' your self. This is not healthy.

It is OK, it is a struggle. You are doing the right thing by even trying. Slowly slowly.

Relax a bit and take a step back observe your self in the third person.

 

What are you doing in your free time? Do you stay all day in your comfort zone? You gotta get busy my friend, you can't just say you are doing nofap and expect a miracle, you gotta go to action, create a to do list and follow it, exercise, meditate, read, study, work etc... just don't screw around the house and in bed where most people relapse.

 

Yeah man,

Don't beat yourself up over it. I relapsed just today - a few hours ago, after stopping porn consumption on 15/8/2019. No masturbation (I don't really have linked PMO,) but a very unsatisfying 25 minutes looking at some material.

Some here speak against it, but have you tried software that would restrict access to porn?

I'm single, but curious about this; is your girlfriend aware of your recovery 'project'?

 

Please don't start cutting yourself, as a former addict of it it can be much more devastating and have negative impacts on your life than PMO. I don't know how to help you, as I'm struggling myself, but as the others said I would try to attempt getting as incredibly busy as you could when you have an urge, getting clothed cold showers, basically knowing your triggers as best as you can to avoid them as best as possible. I wish you the best!

 

Yep,

This 'wilpower' thing is just one component.

Using tools and 'mental technology' (determination/will power, awareness of triggers, etc) to give yourself the best chance of success is probably the way to go.

I haven't had a TV for probably a decade and replaced it with the internet. You see the problem? The medium of transmission for porn and we all spend a lot of time using it.

I wonder whether knowing the process can help you move through the stages. I had some time, years of beating the hell outta myself for failing repeatedly. I can't articulate it right now, but I've come to the realisation that that attitude towards myself was unproductive. For others it might be the spark that starts things.

I'm going for a walk right now and say the thread starter's should get some sort of exercise going. Even if he just lays on the floor listening to some instrumental music.

 

No need to resort to drastic measures. When you feel an urge get up and walk out of the house. Be around other people and do something, even if it's just walking until the urge passes. Think of things you can do to replace the time normally spent in PMO.