Hello, I just wanted to share my story Im new and Im not sure how this works. It's been almost a year since my highschool girlfriend broke up with me, we were together for more than 4 years, she cheated on me once we started college and a year and a couple of months later she broke up with me "saying we were no longer compatible". To give a little bit morw insight she broke up with me because she became vegan and I didn't wanted to, she "had a friend" in college that was after her i thought they stopped talking, that's what she said at least and then he said that he was going vegan so she broke up with me and started a relationship with him a couple of days after we broke up. This situation destroyed me, it's been almost a year and i have been feeling really lonely, after this i recognize now that I became a porn addict i cant spent more than a Day without masturbating and I'm really young.... I haven't been able to completely get her out of my life and that has also affected me because i cant meet people that I am interested or if i do i lose interest super quick, therefore i have not had sex in a year, everyday i still remember some things and I start to feel lonely sometimes i get to remember our moments together and I start to feel anxiety and my chest hurts. I feel lonely. Do you guys have any advise for me? I need to move on but no matter what i tried i ve been failing and haven't been able to...
Hi and welcome. That's a real shit thing she did to you. That's great you recognise already why you turned to porn, great start already. So i think if you get over your girlfriend then the porn issue should resolve, you've only been into it for a year so that's really good you want to do something about it so soon. So don't worry, you will get over her and you can absolutely kick your porn habit/ dependency. There are many good videos on YouTube about heartbreak. Yes it is a very real thing and can be extremely hard to overcome. But that's your first step bro. There's different approaches to it, just watch a load of them and see what fits for you. I can empathize with you, my partner of three years broke up with me almost a year ago, but it kind of carried on for a few more months then was final. I just felt i was going to die from the pain of it, felt confused, bewildered about it. It's only since I started nofap seriously that I've gained more inner strength and with that have realised I am actually ok on my own. I don't need her to survive. So from then I started to heal from it. But it still goes on, these things take time. I wish you all the best. There is a lot of information on here to read that will help you, with loneliness and actually to quit porn. Welcome to the fight! ( I love that phrase)
Thank you bro, it's been hard this year however i finally realize i have a problem, I'm gonna look for those videos and I hope it helps. Thank you for your support I want to do this right I'm gonna keep reading posts and will try to move on
Hello and welcome! We are glad to have you as a part of our community. Here are some quick links to get you started. Getting Started Guide | How to Use theNoFap Forums | Panic Button | Day Counter | Rebooting Resources | ForumRules | Glossary If you wish to keep a journal of your progress you can do so in the appropriate section found here You can also take part in one of the manychallenges available. It can be a tremendous help. Challenges Also, there are groups you can also join if you wish to do so. You can browse through them here. Groups There are plenty of wonderful, friendly and knowledgeable people here to help you along on your journey to a life free of PMO. I wish you nothing but the best!
These things take time. That’s it. Welcome to the Nofap community. The NO PMO journey is not easy but worth the effort. The community will support you. Maybe you want to make some commitment - not to the community but to yourself. Like a 14-days or 90-days NO PMO streak.
Hi Lelouch07, welcome here, and wishing you loads of strength and good luck on your journey to overcome both heartbreak and porn. I am sure that if you overcome one, you can also overcome the other. And seems like you are already busy taking some solid steps. Keep up the good work!
Heyyy welcome to the NoFap forum : ) It's nice to see you here fighting the good fight alongside us! Here is just some advice: First and foremost please take a look at each section in the forum, there might be something(s) you may find of big help to you. Feel free to post there :+) Then secondly I just strongly advise you to be active on your profile(as there quite a few active people in the profile section). Please start by choosing an avatar and then make daily status posts to show you're active and needing support/encouragement. They've also got a neat little feature that shows freshly posted statuses for all users to see. People will find your profile and give you encouragement/support. People (are beginning to) love communicating in the profilesection..(it should be and is )mostly spportive talk but it doesn't hurt to deviate from supportive talk. It would be great to have you join in and support others in the threads, profiles, and journal. Make sure and be grateful for the help you received and help after receiving some. Invest in some people's journeys. We could always use your help and in return you shall receive some as well! Thirdly, You should also highly consider creating a public journal and write about your days in more depth for us members to follow along your journey and offer support to you by way of posting in your journal. Last but not least: Good luck on your journey here, make sure to really give it a try with all your heart!
