Even here, everyone is ignoring me.. feeling worthless

Hey, man, I know how it feels to be ignored. I've had issues with focusing because of porn. I'm also new here, but even in my 1st week I've noticed a change in my focusing on school. (I'm a high-schooler) To your first question, your social problems will not just simply go away. However, if you get your face out of your computer screen or phone, it will directly affect your social life. You will feel more confident about yourself, and eventually, won't look at girls in a sexual way as much, making you more comfortable around people.

To your second question, because porn messes with your brain and effects your focus, getting away from it will indirectly better your grades.

I hope I was accurate in all these statements. Feel free to message me if you have any questions or comments about this.
Dan

 

Because your dopamine needs are so high (due to porn), socializing no longer appears to be the pleasure to do. Which might explain your lacklaster social life. That's my theory.

Start Nofap, start it now.

 

I honestly wouldn't know about that. It's probably just something that will come with time away from porn. Real sex is completely natural and shouldn't have any affect on that.
Stay strong, man!

 

Robert,

You are awesome for being here, and with your anxiety and social issues, you fit right in here. You are one of us. You belong here. Welcome to nofap.
Who knows where nofap will lead you eventually, but I promise you without any hesitation that nofap will lead you in the right direction, in a good direction. You will gain a desire to not stop your self-improvement with just your sexual thoughts, fantasies, and actions. You will gain a desire to better yourself in other ways, whether it be physical (weight, muscle, exercising) or emotional (writing, counseling, reading self-help books) or spiritual (read more of your religious books, pray more, attend religious services, socialize with people with same religious practices/beliefs).

A few other practical tips...
If you are not getting enough sleep, start getting enough sleep starting tonight.
If you are not exercising, go for a walk today.
If you are not eating healthy, grab an apple this afternoon.
If you are inside, go outside.
If you are stressed, do some deep breathing exercises, then do some more.

Robert, let me repeat. You are awesome just for being here. Do not leave on day 2 or day 5 or 7 like so many guys do. Stay with us here for encouragement and accountability.

Peace to you, as this is tough stuff to overcome, but with grit and determination, you will overcome and you will live a more awesome life.

FW

 

Robert, real sex is tough when you are first coming off the addiction cycle, because the sexual arousal and orgasm triggers the feel good drugs. Sex with the wife is so much healthier than any other sex, but make sure that you are emotionally present there with your wife and not just going through the motions or thinking about someone else or somewhere else or fantasizing about a porn scene or the gal on facebook. Be strong. Stay strong, and you will win this.

FW

 

Robert, it will go away. Soon is a little harder to commit to, since 'soon' means something different to everyone. You have the right attitude. May success be yours.

FW

 

Robert. Welcome to the forum. We have all been in your shoes. Spending too much time PMOing will make you feel like people are ignoring you. Seriously, when you are under the addiction of PMO, why do you want to socialize? You don't because socialization takes you ways from PMO. You justify being alone by thinking that no one wants you around because that gives more time to be along with PMO. Trust me I've been there too and I'm still struggling to get out. It's all an illusion. You are just as good as everyone else. No one is ignoring you. You just need to put yourself out there and be part society. NoFap will help you.

As DeckhandDan98 said, doing NoFap alone isn't going to solve all your perceived problems. You need to be responsible for your life and actions. You should set a schedule and goals of things that you want to accomplish with all the time you will have since you won't be fapping. Look at the book the slight edge. It will help you set goals and accomplish them. Also know that abstinence is different from recovery. You not only need to stop fapping but you also need to recover from this addiction.

You're memory can't be completely shot if you made it to med school. I have experienced that brain fog does start to clear slowly when doing NoFap. You're doing something very important. If you can kick this addiction, think of how many others you can save or help after you finish med school.

Stay strong.

 

Welcome Robert, I'm only 23 days into NoFap and I can share some of my experiences I've noticed in just a short amount of time, like others have said the brain fog is slowly going away, I'm a social person to begin with and it's only gotten easier over the past week to have more involed conversations, I'm noticed I've become much more compassionate with my wife, it seems like I'm just more caring and more into what she's saying now than I ever was before where I'd get bored and want to find my phone and PMO, these are just some of my experiences that I've noticed, and as it was said earlier be intune while having sex, first it makes it much more enjoyable second it's where the rewireing of the brain begins and will ultimately lead to you being a better lover for your wife, which in turn will lead to more self esteem, which leads to more confidence, which leads to a better social life because you feel like you can put yourself out there, once again welcome to the greatest community

 

Robert, where is your post from today? How is it going? I am not ignoring you. You are ignoring us.

Looking forward to hearing about your success today.


FW

 

I feel for you man. I do have to say, that we find what we expect to find in life. A lot of what you're experiencing is simply a result of your belief systems. You believe that everyone hates you, so that's the only thing that you can see. You create that outcome with your own beliefs.

If you reframe your beliefs, your life will never be the same. Easier said than done, but it's done all the time — I've done it myself. Example: instead of telling yourself and reaffirming that you're totally disconnected and everyone hates you, begin to smile and tell yourself and reaffirm that everyone is out to HELP you and be your friend.

There is a lot of significance to what I've just told you. It's hard to put into words, especially without spending the next hour writing, but I hope that you find this helpful on your journey. Cheers (^__^)

 

Pff that's how I was at start also, then I tried broadening my circle and realized most of the people are stupid and superficial anyway. So now I have like 2 close friend instead of 20 fake ones and that's it. I only speak with them when it's work related or on some common topic just to kill the time, nothing "deep" like with my real friends. I'd rather have fruitful conversations with 1-2 ppl then pointless ones with the masses. You should still improve your communication skills even with people you don't like, just don't act in a manner where you'd please them only to get their attention. Don't become a faker yourself.

 

You are feeling wrong! You aren't worthless for goodness sake. God made us all unique and special in his sight. Don't seek aproval in people, try and do the right thing, and the right thing starts by stopping pmo forever. I used to struggle a lot with social anxiety and I didn't know the cause of it! It's still difficult sometimes but I feel stronger now that I am trying to fight this with all I have. You are worth it and no one is ignoring you, it's all in your head. If you want to become a better person then do the right thing - give more time to your family and wife, love them, unconditional love is the most important thing that you need to remember and it's going to help you heal completely. Study more, love more, read more, be joyful more, help someone more, hate no one, be thankful - I promise you, if you do all these things not only you will heal, but you will help people who have the same problem as you do. Be strong and do your best..