Sex chat adsiction

Step 1: delete the accounts
Step 2: install blocking software on your pc
Step 3: develop life skills / get another degree / work out (self-development of any sort)
Step 4: go out and hit on chicks irl; not girls who are just looking for sex. Build connections with people.
Step 5: Life life, get laid, have good fun

^oversimplified, but this is the general route you must follow.

 

Hey @Peaksoft I totally understand your struggle. I have nearly the same circumstances, with the same issue that's developed over many years, and I'm just now realizing that porn isn't so much the root of my issue, just a symptom of an underlying inability to maintain self control with sexual compulsive behaviors. If anything, my behavior has escalated alongside of my attempt to avert from porn over the years.

I think behaviors like this are just as addictive as porn. We now have access to hundreds to thousands of people, either anonymously, or through social apps, and I think this might still classify as hyper stimulation (super stimulus), so we can at least think of it in the same terms as porn - it's still a behavior that's developed and solidified through repetition, causing sensitization, desensitization, hypofrontality. Further more, it has it's collection of consequences, not immediately severe perhaps, but just as costly.

I'm still searching for the answers myself. I wish it was something I could just turn off, but it hasn't been that easy. Here's my current strategy to work through this:

1. Journal - Take a daily snapshot of my journey. See what emotions/feelings I'm dealing with for the day. Journal about my triggers/cues and relapses. No judgement, just honesty. Analyze the ritual. Notice that it's typically a long chain of events (emotions, situations). For example, a recipe might be:
anxiety/environment/boredom -> thoughts about chat apps -> anxiety of abstaining -> excitement -> curiosity -> install app -> risk -> excitement -> visual stimulation ......
2. Plan my Days and Weeks - Try to get more strict with my schedule, even personal hobbies, or periods to relax (rewards)
3. Track my habits I'm trying to change - Read a book daily, exercise daily, mediate daily - but try to limit to 3, I tend to overwhelm myself with grandiose ideas.
4. Keep Learning - nofap, even though my situation isn't specifically porn related, much of the information applies. Also read a lot of books about OCD, emotions, psychology
5. Review/Revise the list of consequences associated with the behaviors - This is tough, because the consequences don't always seem so tragic. But either is sugar, then one day you indulge, then again, and again, THEN you have cavities. years later, A root canal. more years later, 3 root canals. fake teeth. etc

In the past I've had 90+ day reboots, only to be easily sucked back in by an old contact I used to enjoy sexting with. I would suggest deleting all your old contacts. I'm also using OpenDNS as a buffer. Unfortunately, for me, it's been easy to get around these type of things, so they are only a crutch. I realize that this power, this self control, needs to be developed and built from within, on a daily basis.

Good luck to anyone with the same struggle.