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Lack of progress with ED in experienced rebooter?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by crushurcravings, May 1, 2015.

  1. May 1, 2015 #1
    crushurcravings

    crushurcravings Fapstronaut

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    Hi guys

    I've been on nofap and rebooting (rather successfully up till this point) to cure my Erectile Dysfunctions among other things for the past 6 months. I have suffered from depression, social anxiety, inability to stay motivated etc. which have all more or less subsided completely.

    My story
    To make a long story short, I've been a chronic fapper (3-4 times daily) since I was around 10 or 11 years old and always used artificial stimulation. By the age of 18 I started noticing having copulatory ED so I stopped pursuing real relationships as porn was much more exciting and "fulfilling" - Or so I thought at least.
    By the age of 22 (currently 23) I noticed being limp even WITH porn and I was no longer able to orgasm.
    I found YourBrainOnPorn and quit (more or less) cold turkey with only a handful of setbacks before going on a large streak (this one).

    Actual problem
    Last night I had issues sleeping (went to bed around 11:30PM) and didn't really doze off until about 2AM. As I dozed off I, unfortunately, let my mind wander a bit. From ex girlfriend(s) to former favourite porn videos and pretty much anything in between, really. As I was already half asleep I figured this was no big deal.
    Then all of a sudden I realized I was ejaculating WHILE BEING LIMP! grr.. I guess I had 30% erection or something but I was basically limp. Certainly couldn't penetrate anything.
    (I always wear pants to bed so it is difficult for me to gauge what exactly was going on down there)
    Now, I don't care if this is considered a relapse or not - It doesn't really mean anything.
    What I do want to know is whether or not I have damaged my system beyond repair. All the anxiety, depression etc. went away about 2 months into my reboot and I haven't seen any improvements with regards to anything since. It's like I am completely normal except for my ED. Weak/no morning wood, no spontaneous erections, manageable urges. I'd like to think I am no longer in a flatline as I'm 5-6 months in and I've already experienced what the flatline feels like. Maybe a different stage? I don't know /:

    My own personal guess is that I have conditioned my system not to need a full erection (30% or w/e) in order to experience pleasure (orgasm) and therefore it never really gets to more than that.
    If anyone else has a more qualified explanation for what is going on, I'd be extremely grateful!
    And also, does anyone have a clue as to how I can reverse this issue? :(

    Thank you very much guys!

    Best regards :)

    note: I've ruled out chronic/blood flow ED as I could get 120% erection to porn on december 28th (which was the last time I binged/relapsed). I had been on 3 weeks of hardmode prior to this binge.
     
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  2. May 1, 2015 #2
    Z Dog

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    Considering your age and when you started with the addiction, PIED could take a little longer to disappear. Just trust the process- it is your brain that is rewiring, and because you have been a chronic fapper to P since you were able to, your brain will take longer to re-ajust. There has never been a time in your life that you have not been sensitised to internet porn, therefore your brain has to go back to 'factory setting', which it will do in time.

    Also, your experience was not actual M, nor were you having actual sex, so you have no way of knowing how much you would become aroused in those situations. Those situations are infinitely more stimulating than some night time release of semen.

    I would just say, stop worrying and obsessing about getting raging boners for the time being. Your brain is fine- and because of neuroplasticity, the addictive pathways are disappearing as we speak.

    The only control you have over this process is not to fap. Leave the rest to the healing power within (God).
     
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  3. May 5, 2015 #3
    arturo111

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    I have also ED bro :( and i think ED is a live demon in us :( so, from my last relapse have 200 days and more and i'm still no good :( my advice is: some kind of sport (even push ups) Omega 3, zink, b - compleks, meditation, cold shower, and never tuch your .!. With luck bro and be strong!
     
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  4. May 5, 2015 #4
    jbastoniv

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    As bad as your M was and at such an early age it may take a long time for you to reboot. I'd stay patient. Do you have a GF? If not, I'd suggest getting out there dating and getting used to women's company and start experiencing other ways of getting aroused.
     
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  5. May 5, 2015 #5
    crushurcravings

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    I workout 6 times a week (HIIT and weight lifting) and eat a very clean and healthy diet as well. I'm in very good physical shape. I do not take any supplements or practice meditation however. Thank you, looks like I need it lol.
     
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  6. May 5, 2015 #6
    crushurcravings

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    I do not currently have a girlfriend, no. There's a small chance I'm already "fine" but because I have no reason to get sexually aroused, I'm just not. I think rewiring, which is what you're refering to, may be the missing piece here. I already had a brief with conversation with Gary about this and he seems to concur. In any case, thank you for your response :)
     
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  7. May 5, 2015 #7
    Proxydore

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    Do you have a girlfriend ?

    Personnaly, until last year (I am 23) it was absolutly impossible for me to get an erection with a girl. Then last year I had my first girlfriend. The first 3 or 4 times we tried to do it, I couldn't get it up. She has been comprehensive and supportive, she did not mock or looked shocked, she just said that it was OK and was sure that one day we could do it normally. And she was right : one day we were kissing in the bed and, without thinking of it, I got hard. It was my first time, and I couldn't have a better memory than this day ! Since then, my erection is perfectly fine, we can make love three or four times in a day without any artificial stimulation. I have morning wood, plenty of "random erections" just by watching girls passing by, and when my girlfriend puts her hand on me, it automatically gets up !

    Of course, it's even better since I stopped P, but maybe your problem is not P stimulation, but more of a confidence problem. Maybe you just need to be reassured about your virility with a girl that will love you and admire you, even if you can't get a proper erection.

    Also, to be reassured about the fact that this is only a psychological dysfuntion and not a physical dysfunction, you should consult a specialist. If he tells you that it is only psychological, I think a good girlfriend is the best medecine for you !

    You hard work will pay, my friend, be sure of it !

    Edit : Sorry for asking the same question as jbastoniv, didn't see !
     
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  8. May 5, 2015 #8
    crushurcravings

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    Thanks. I am currently doing hardmode, so no. But I probably should get a girlfriend asap to "test the waters" if you will. I've ruled out physical ED because I can get rock hard to porn and I have (in my earlier days) been able to have erections with women. Things didn't get super bad until I started fapping to tube sites for 1-2 hours every single day. This was when I was 18 and I am currently 23 (never took a single day off from fapping *facepalm*)

    edit: the part about getting rockhard to porn happened 128 days ago after a brief hardmode reboot of about 3 weeks.
     
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  9. May 5, 2015 #9
    Happiness

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    Sounds like all you need is a bit more patience! While a lot of people tout 90 days as the magical timeframe, we're all different and each of us, depending on our unique situations, will likely require different amounts of time to properly reboot. Some people may take 1 month, some 1 year. Happy to hear you're so far along on the right track (^__^)
     
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  10. May 5, 2015 #10
    arturo111

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    how much you are clean? Try with omega 3, believe me, omega 3 can help you. When i first time try that i rebooted very soon, but, nex day i relapsed:( with luck and be strong! We have struggle with live demon...
     
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  11. May 5, 2015 #11
    crushurcravings

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    My current diet consists of chicken breast, tuna, green veggies, eggs, nuts and seeds (currently cutting). When I bulk I add brown rice, potatoes, and oat meal. That kind of clean xD
     
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  12. May 5, 2015 #12
    arturo111

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    hahaa.... nice, but when i say: clean, i thing, clean from PMO
     
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