News resolution: to give up

Sorry to hear this Waylare. I've had my ups and downs this year too. And more downs than ups.

It's great that you were able to have the self discipline to keep going to the gym for so long, despite lack of physical gains. Maybe it's time to start applying that self discipline to something else. Perhaps a more sociable sport might suit you better, help keep your fitness levels up while also being sociable and fun. Or maybe going running or climbing, out in nature - I find this stress relieving and makes me feel good in a way that the gym never did. I have been doing yoga for over a year and it suits me so much better than when I went to the gym. Not all guys are born to be beefcakes. And plenty of women prefer a 1970s body to a beefcake bod anyway (if that's what you are concerned about).

It's not always about reaching your goals but about what you learned along the way.

I am also entering 2020 with no job. It's scary and although I have good financial discipline (thankfully), realistically a big chunk of my savings will be gone before I am earning again.

Good luck with your relationship, it sounds like an area to focus on perhaps? Do you want it to hang on, are you committed to it?

 

Sounds like you still have more left than me. I’d hold on to what you have and cherish it while you can! You won’t regret holding on to the good things! Also exercise is just healthy, who cares what you look like. It’s good you that you do it.

 

Have you really been working hard? Or are you just trying to convince yourself you are putting the effort in when you are just half-assing it? Theres no reason not to be making progress in the gym. You are probably just convincing yourself that whatever your buying is going to help you and not actually putting work in to each rep of each set. This goes for everything else you mentioned.