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**Trigger warning** Im addicted to yoga pants

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Freshstart1990, Jan 1, 2020.

  1. Freshstart1990

    Freshstart1990 Fapstronaut

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    So I've been reading some other threads about this which is great because it makes me feel like I'm not alone.
    But basically one of my major PMO triggers is tight yoga pants. Now the problem with this is that they are everywhere now and its such a strong obsession for me.

    I live near a clothing optional beach and I can see woman with no clothes all the time and I'm totally cool, no urges or strange thoughts or anything unusual. But if I'm at gym and an attractive women in yoga pants spends too much time around me I will end up either going straight home to PMO or even worst, i'll do it in the gym toilet. It really bothers me.

    So my question has 2 parts:
    How long does it take without PMO to start getting over some of these fetishes?
    What can I do to try and get past my trigger. Im not willing to segregate myself or stay at home as I believe that is counter productive.
     
  2. hollyman

    hollyman Fapstronaut

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    hmm i dont have that "addicted to yoga pants" tho but sure im addicted to one particular thing on bodyparts (beside B and V) everytime i see it i will become horny

    -im on day 30 and was on day 90 but that fetish isnt really gone, if i see one i will try to look at it even if it just a little
    - i learn to just shut my eyes for a while or look at somewhere else


    i go to the gym too and i understand what u feeling, but i try my best to just doin my thing on the gym and dont care what other ppl do, sure sometime woman who didnt know the real function on clothes will passin by..but i dont escalate it to fap.....beside geting horny at the gym is embarasing for me, i mean using gym shorts and getting horny anyone can see my dick is straight

    sorry for the english
     
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  3. Awedouble

    Awedouble Fapstronaut

    Man there was a joke vid about spray-on yoga pants... This is unfortunate because yoga is a healthy practice, but guys with this issue is effectively going to be triggered and so trying to be healthy in terms of abstaining end up preventing you from going to most classes. We shouldn't have to forego one healthy practice for another.

    I'll kind of unpack how it has been for me, I had a crush on a yoga teacher but it wasn't just her looks, she was extremely skilled in getting peoples problems and helping them rehab their injuries having had to deal with it herself so she was a real expert. I can't even remember PMO'ing to the thought of her*, but also just knowing enough about yoga and respecting IT as a practice and not just associating it with hot chicks (in fact many of them don't know that much about yoga, including the less skilled teachers) helps me put it into context.

    So to answer your question based on my experience, the first is there is no period of time abstaining from PMO that will in itself get you over fetishes. The second part about what to actively do to get past the trigger is learn about it and coming to respect yoga beyond just a little stretching and the superficial view of the teacher-as-model. (at least in the sense of model of sexual object)

    If you don't go to yoga classes and are not interested anyway and just has that visual fixation since it is everywhere, you might learn about the basic psychology of trying to attract by wearing such clothes and putting it in context. A lot of people try to deal with addiction without any concern about the context and I think that effectively ends up being too narrow minded. This just means getting the big picture and remembering it when there is trigger so you remember it's not just about sex. It's not going to be easy in the beginning but if nothing else try to remember keeping this in mind will also more likely prevent you to screw up big time when you have a chance with someone who IS in those pants by not focusing on that but on HER, for the simple reason that she'll see that you have an interest in her as a person even if she does also wear those pants sometimes.

    * As a side point there is also emotional porn, which is of course what we typically consider a crush or culminates with that attachment in the mind
     
  4. marr708

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    Fetish or not, yoga pants are hot. They just make women look great. But don't blame the pants. Just stop watching porn and everything will get sorted out. As for the "clothing optional " beach, I understand. Lots of ugly people like to go naked, go figure.
     
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  5. Im gonna approach this from possibly a different angle... i think youre talking about two separate things, but your mind has created a link between them.

    PMO is an issue, and im going to guess that a lot of your P involves yoga pants in a gym/fitness type setting? Definitely, i would say to cut that part out.

    But, looking at an attractive woman in yoga pants at the gym and feeling a form of arousal i wouldnt consider a problem. Hell, im at 30 days now and the unhealthy triggers are subsiding but i still check out my mrs and other good looking women. If anything, im noticing them more than before.

    The big step is to disassociate the "trigger" with PMO. One for me was my wifes sexy underwear, as i had got to the point of crossdressing and sissy shit. The first week or so if i saw them i immediately wanted to wear them and go back to it all. But 30 days down the line of removing that link, i see them now and still get turned on a little but its thinking about my wife in them next time we have sex.

    I accept that as healthy and normal.
     
  6. Priceless

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    Dude I love that too and I haven't watched porn for over three years. I used this as an incentive to go to the gym lolol. I love women in those leggings. My gf was wearing those leggings the first time we met. I saw her and had to talk to her. There is nothing wrong with it, if it gets you out the house and away from a screen.Why don't you even approach some of these women?
     
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  7. red gyarados

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    Spoiler: yoga pants are shapewear
     
  8. I'm perfectly happy when the grannies are at the gym - keeps my eyes focused on my exercise.
     
  9. red gyarados

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    Honestly I don’t even see the point of paying much attention to women at the gym. I have to take my workouts seriously or all they’ll let me do is look.
     
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  10. I do calisthenics at home (bodyweight workouts) plus I save money, sanity, and I can grunt all I want as loud as I want lol
     
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  11. I feel with you...got the same problem...the same trigger problem with yoga pants/tight wear...this annoys me much for it can spoil my porn abstinence so quickly :(
     
  12. Makes sense to me!
     
  13. Mistersofty

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    Is that sandwich called a holgermaulwurf?
     
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  14. Awedouble

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    Of course women wear those pants even when not at an exercise facility of any kind, but just remember controlling both our gaze and thoughts is a kind of exercise in disciplined attention as well.
     
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  15. offtopic: It´s called TripleDoubleTriple...Triple "meat", double "cheese", triple onions...quotation marks because it´s a vegan thing
     
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