New and married....is sex with my wife ok?

I think we at NoFap encourage sex with spouses. That is an intimate real connection--as opposed to porn. Unless you feel like you need to abstain from all sex, then your wife can be your biggest supporter and helper in your recovery.

 

I second that. A loving respectful physical relationship with your spouse is key to a healthy marriage. Of course part of a loving respectful physical relationship is removing PMO and focusing on the real relationship with your wife.

 

The only time people abstain from sex with their wives or gf is to fix ED issues. Also if you find you need porn fantasy during sex to get an erection or to achieve orgasm then you may not want to have sex until your brain has rebooted more. Otherwise enjoy your wife

 

In my opinion it's OK to have sex with your wife. If you're struggling with it, maybe you should try to keep the breaks on, and not do it too much. But please don't feel bad about MAKING LOVE to your wife!!!!

 

Nofap is all about having a rich and full sexual life with real partners. Do you have problems like porn induced erectile disfunction and/or premature/delayed ejaculation?

 

Same as the others here, I would say you can have sex with your wife, unless it feels like a problem to you. If you need to think about porn to get it up, then maybe it's best if you wait.

Also, did you tell your wife about your PMO addiction? I know it is far from an easy thing to discuss. I tried to reboot without telling her about it and it was no easy task. Instead of hiding to watch porn, I was hiding to go on nofap etc. Eventually, I told her everything and my reboot has been going better ever since. Also, if she feels like having sex but it's a bad timing (If you are already struggling with an urge, you don't want to have sex, you will just be replacing PMO with sex, it won't be healthy), she will understand.

There is the flatline to consider too. You might have to justify to her why you won't be feeling aroused or excited at all for a period of time. It might be easier to explain or get through if your life partner is by your side.

I don't know if you told her about it, but coming from a guy who didn't want to talk about it with his wife, I highly recommend that you have that discussion with her.

Best of luck! Keep us posted.