Is going on Tinder going to mess with my reboot?

Tinder stimulates you with women in the form of novelty within one swipe, women that try to look as good as possible. So it depends on your goals that you're trying to achieve. In order to become a fully medieval man who feels his blood kooking when he sees a hot girl, you must quit on the porn of course, but with that also comes social media, NETFLIX which is full of hot women, more importantly as you said, tinder is a nogo. Do this for 120 days, use openDNS and google safesearch in order to block anything out when you get urges, because they will come and typing porn doesn't require rational thinking, only compulsive action taking which is the reason that so many people fail. So summarized, delete anything that stimulates you sexually even if it's just 'pictures of women on instagram', block the ways to acquire pornography and then the last... Know that your goals or motivations will not work as strong as the following; shifting your identity. If you, from now on, don't see yourself as a guy that faps his sausage, then you won't. So what I'm saying with that is that believe is the holy key to change. Your identity is your beliefsystem. Believe that you're a different person by making the decision that you're different. Write affirmations, shift your identity and you will behave to your identity. Same works for becoming rich, working out, changing habits. It's all about the belief. Without believe you will relapse the day that you feel the worst making the days after even worse. Because we relapse on bad habits the days we feel the worst.

If you'd like to talk or ask things, hit me up I'm on day 121 now

 

Social anxiety comes from social media such as instagram, tinder and from porn.

I would speculate that shame and social anxiety could be results from these, because in particular comparison of yourself to others can lead to massive self doubt. For me already, I just looked at one profile on instagram, from a guy who released a song 1 street far from me. He has 3000+ followers, 300 comments inclusive girls and he looks good. This is a very common phenomenon that really made me doubt about my own situation for one second, because I hadn't been confronted by others for so long (I don't use instagram for almost a year). So think about social media as this. Your world should be small, manageable. A person shouldn't eat more than he can digest. But with the coming of social media, we all came in contact with a big world, comparing ourselves to images that people created on purpose to show how good they are while in fact they often don't have a better life than you because else they wouldn't be on it that way.

What I'm trying to say is that, your social anxiety and shame can come from pornography and social media, if it ain't something else. I know this because I have been there myself. Social anxiety is a product of 21st century, it is not a healthy thing. There haven't been so many unhealthy people on earth as of now.

Don't see yourself as a victim, you were, but now you got the knowledge, be aware of the influence of life that determines who you become; your environment, the age the environment is in, and your genetics. If you go to the psychologist he might say stuff, but be aware that psychology is still developping and by the time they take exams, their knowledge is partly outdated because the world changes so fast.

Your plan should now be, that you change your believe about who you are. What I mean to say is, let go of your beliefsystem, throw it away, you are not a person who is ashamed or IS anxiety, you're just suffering under it because of the circumstances you're living in. Change these circumstances and you will too. You're self image will change.

And we don't need hard receipts for that, the nature isn't meant to handle in such a complicated way.

If you really want to take care of this anxiety than you have to create a goal in life first, but that's not the source of your anxiety of course, but without that, you can forget the following things.

Stop porn
Delete social media
Stop overconsuming and being average, work on yourself hard, and rest after the hard work.
Stop watching movies
Stop being around negative people who might influence you in negative ways, saying that you're not worthy in particular
Don't go on tinder, work on your goals for now
Be productive, work on your goal, starting by implementing these above that took me roughly a year to implement.
--> turn yourself into a man, with a rich life, strong, and you'll have the identity of a strong person, and believe you are strong. Get your life together, exercise, be aware that you're circle of influence has THE decisive influence on who you are and who you'll become.

I gave too much at once maybe, if you'd like help I'd love to provide. Maybe the problem isnt internet at all for you

 

I think that Tinder will slow down the rewiring, but it's not drastically slowing it down. Effects will still come but sooner or later you might end up getting aroused on tinder, going over to porn. Just imagine yourself super horny 50 days from now. So Tinder is a possible limiting factor to your success

 

Yes. Get off Tinder now.

Firstly Tinder can make you feel depressed if you don't get many matches or not matching with the girls you want. It's also fake as fuck these days with all the Snapchat filters etc, it's all based around social media posts and Instagram's pics. The average guys doesn't stand a chance of picking up a girl on his level of standards because the 4s and 5s still get picked up by male 7s and 8s when they don't want to put much effort in and want a quick F.

This means those 4s and 5s think they are actually 6s or 7s and start only persuing men out of their league but still manage to get one every blue moon. That leaves the average men with all the 2s and 3s that they don't want so they end up deleting the app.

The average woman on tinder, very basic looking will get anywhere from 15/30 matches per day and around 10/15 messages. If that girl has a job and likes to sleep then this gives her a few hours a day while not eating or showering to reply to a couple of messages. Even if you get a reply or start a conversation, the next day she will be getting another wave of likes and messages what put your conversation on the back burner. You get forgotten about the second a more attractive guy sends them a message.

I'm not saying tinder doesn't work at all but in my experience it has ultimately been a waste of time. The last time I was on there I was talking to a cute but very chubby 24 year old girl who seemed to just want to talk as friends and a 37 year old French chic with a 4 year old son who I could have easily F'd. I was 30 at the time and felt like I could do better so I deleted it. I had matched with many others but there was very little conversation.

 

There's no such thing as a more attractive man. Because you get attracted to hot girls visually the most doesn't mean it works the same for women. My man, you got it all wrong, 95% of men just doesn't know how to do it, how to say something unique, and that's the problem you're experiencing. You don't use the right method other than saying common stuff, and almost all man could use a profile upgrade. Do you really think it's going to work to make a whole linkedin list of things you do? Tinder doesn't work that way, and neither do women only get attractred to good lookimg men

 

If you have to ask, you probably know the answer. You don't come here and ask whether it's alright to go outside and watch birds flying in the trees, do you? Quit all of it. It's all crap. This nervous adolescent obsession with finding dates is just another expression of the same cause that leads you to porn. Your goal should be optimum mental and physical health, to become a mature human being. Get back to your natural, baseline state first. You aren't in a position to know where you're at until you get your mind clear. And that's not easy. Simple, but not easy.