Can I have my normal sexual life back Can i Recure ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION CAN I MAKE A WOMAN happy

The walking legend · Mar 29, 2020

My name is Fazalesubhan Khan Kakar and I am 17 years old and will be 18 in this may of 19th 2020 Inshallah. I belong to Pakistan. I started masturbating when I was 11 years old. At that time this habit was just a way of releasing pressure and stress for me, nothing more than that. In fact, I can say that this habit just helps me to forgive my tensions and concentrate on my daily life activities. But when I jumped to the 13th of my age something new came into my life and that was "Pornography". At that time the only thing that was in my mind was a woman is just a pair of breasts and vagina and you have to fuck her only. At the age of 14 pornography took all control of mind and the only thing that always surrounded my mind was, just find a chick(woman) and fuck her. I lived in a joint family with my Cousin sisters and brothers. Masturbation was just like my best friend who always help me in my lonely times. When all family members gather, I just look for free space and get any gadgets and search for porn and masturbate. It just makes me feel better and also weak but I always ignore the second thing. With the passage of time, I just get addicted to porn and masturbation. It was just like a drug for me. I cannot pass a single minute without this drug. Sometimes when I don't get a chance to masturbate, It makes me feel angry as I just wanna kill a person for no reason. Gradually, guys, masturbation and porn started taking my life from me. It just took away my best friends from me and also my family members too. I was just not able to talk to them and always hide from such gatherings which include my friends and family members. I was too much-frustrated that I can not concentrate on anything in my life Either it was related to my studies or any other concerning activity of my life. In fact of being among the people, I feel like I am totally alone and there is nobody who will help me. At the age of 16, I somehow feel weakness in my body and also in the private part of the body. Being a Muslim and belonging to a tribal community I cannot share my problems with anyone, not with my only sister. In my family, I was the elder one and after me was my sister who was just 2 years younger than me. Gradually these problems overcome my mind and I was just like a guy who was totally a drug addict. I spend hours searching for solutions to my problems. I also talked with some so-called Pakistani Islamic scholars but they replied so brutally, some of them said that "Its totally your fault you should think about it before you started it and now you are uncurable. One among them said that you should also not marry a girl in the near future Because you can ruin a girl's life by not making her sexually happy and by not giving her a baby. Trust me guys these were their words and my reaction was to just pick a gun and kill them all on the spot. I accept that I have done wrong in these past years but now I want a change in my life either its the normal one or the sexual one. After so much rejection guys I am now tired enough. These tensions have made me empty from inside. I may be smiling from outside but from inside I am totally finished. I just wanna recover. But whenever I look down to the size of my penis it seems that the scholar was right I will never have that natural desire for sex again and I will also be not able to make my wife(If I got married) happy(sexually) and never will be able to give her a baby and after some time she will also leave me alone as others do. According to me now I am suffering from ED(erectile dysfunction). AND due to this factor, no woman will be ready to get married to me. I just listened about NOFAP on youtube and how it helped people in recovering their self. I have heard about there 90 days challenge in which you have to abstain your self fro watching porn and from masturbation. I also wanna declare here that I stopped both of these habits from last week Friday 20th of the march and successfully restrained my self from both freaking habits for one week this Friday 27th of march my one week challenge completed. But still, I have doubt on my self and I think NoFAP is the last hope for me. My question is if I stopped from doing both of the above things for ninety days will I be able to get my old life will I be able to have my natural sexual desire back will I be able to get married with a girl And can I make her sexually happy and give her a child

Otello · Mar 29, 2020

Welcome brother. Thank you for sharing with so much honesty your story.
First just a little advice: edit your post and remove your real name. It's never a good habit to leave traces of your personal life on the net. It is very personal and you do't want it to be read by the wrong people.
You said

I accept that I have done wrong in these past years
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You did NOTHING WRONG my friend. Porn is a drug, and a very dangerous one, especially at a very young age. You just fell into a trap. The industry profits from your porn browsing, so if someone is to blame is eventually them. So no guilt. Eventually, you are an innocent victim of online porn.
I understand your problems with friends and family, another side effect of porn addiction is shame. Shame that doesn't put you in touch with the jewel you really are, and makes you avoid any kind of intimacy because you think you are not worth. This is a side effect of many other addictions, such as gambling, drinking, drugs. You are not alone, many of us have been or are going through this.
You can recover brother. Completely. There is nothing wrong in your sperm or in your body's anatomy. 90 days will help you enormously, but you will see many benefits also after a few days. But the objective should be a lifetime without porn. Like mankind used to do before the invention of reproducible images. You are very young, so it's a bit of an utopia to think that you will never masturbate again. But just get rid of porn, that stuff poisons your soul. You will look at women again like the other half of the sky, and not like walking genitals. It is healing and refreshing, and will also let you have a better relation with the women in your family.
Don't trust the scholars. I am catholic, not muslim, but I think both our religions share a certain tendency towards guilt that doesn't help. You are a victim, not a felon. And you are on the path to recovery. You will marry a lovely woman, and will have a healthy and beautiful sexual life together. One day maybe you will share with her the story of a bad porn addiction you had when you were a teenager, and will be able to keep your sons safe from it. You are overcoming it when you are 18. I did it in my 40s! You do have a great advantage there
The best of luck. You are not alone.

Deleted Account · Mar 31, 2020

Heyyy welcome to the NoFap forum : ) It's nice to see you here fighting the good fight alongside us!

First let me go ahead and drop some helpful links for you:

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Here is just some advice:

First and foremost please take a look at each section in the forum, there might be something(s) you may find of big help to you. Feel free to post there :+)

Then secondly I just advise you to be active on your profile(as there a few active people in the profile section). Please start by choosing an avatar and then make daily status posts to show you're active and needing support/encouragement. They've also got a neat little feature that shows freshly posted statuses for all users to see. People will find your profile and give you encouragement/support.

Theres a portion of people who love communicating in the profile section..(it should be and is )mostly spportive talk but it doesn't hurt to deviate from supportive talk. It would be great to have you join in and support others in the threads, profiles, and journal. Make sure and be grateful for the help you received and give some help after receiving some. Invest in some people's journeys. We could always use your help and in return you shall receive some as well!

Thirdly, You should also highly consider creating a public journal/log (in the appropriate section for you) and write about your days in more depth for us members to follow along your journey and offer support to you by way of posting in your journal.

Last but not least: Good luck on your journey here, make sure to really give it a try with all your heart!

The Free Bird · Apr 1, 2020

Hi and welcome to the community

I would recommend you to stay in touch with members and read their success stories. You may also learn tricks to avoid the short-term pleasure and to face the temptations.

Be AWARE of your habits and control what you see and what/who you spend your time with.

It's also important to limit the usage of social media. In addition, never be free! Use your free time as much as possible and do sports, exercise, attend classes, etc.

This video contains everything that you need to know about porn addiction. Lastly, here is a collection of ways to deal with the urges which worked great for me.

֍ You got this my friend ֍

The walking legend · Apr 1, 2020

Otello said: ↑

Welcome brother. Thank you for sharing with so much honesty your story.
First just a little advice: edit your post and remove your real name. It's never a good habit to leave traces of your personal life on the net. It is very personal and you do't want it to be read by the wrong people.
You said
You did NOTHING WRONG my friend. Porn is a drug, and a very dangerous one, especially at a very young age. You just fell into a trap. The industry profits from your porn browsing, so if someone is to blame is eventually them. So no guilt. Eventually, you are an innocent victim of online porn.
I understand your problems with friends and family, another side effect of porn addiction is shame. Shame that doesn't put you in touch with the jewel you really are, and makes you avoid any kind of intimacy because you think you are not worth. This is a side effect of many other addictions, such as gambling, drinking, drugs. You are not alone, many of us have been or are going through this.
You can recover brother. Completely. There is nothing wrong in your sperm or in your body's anatomy. 90 days will help you enormously, but you will see many benefits also after a few days. But the objective should be a lifetime without porn. Like mankind used to do before the invention of reproducible images. You are very young, so it's a bit of an utopia to think that you will never masturbate again. But just get rid of porn, that stuff poisons your soul. You will look at women again like the other half of the sky, and not like walking genitals. It is healing and refreshing, and will also let you have a better relation with the women in your family.
Don't trust the scholars. I am catholic, not muslim, but I think both our religions share a certain tendency towards guilt that doesn't help. You are a victim, not a felon. And you are on the path to recovery. You will marry a lovely woman, and will have a healthy and beautiful sexual life together. One day maybe you will share with her the story of a bad porn addiction you had when you were a teenager, and will be able to keep your sons safe from it. You are overcoming it when you are 18. I did it in my 40s! You do have a great advantage there
The best of luck. You are not alone.
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Bro at that time there were only negative thoughts in my mind for me due to this reason I wrote all things which were in my heart

The walking legend · Apr 1, 2020

Fazalesubhan Khan Kakar said: ↑

Bro at that time there were only negative thoughts in my mind for me due to this reason I wrote all things which were in my heart
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I m glad that there people like u and others who are still giving hope to people like me
As u are more experienced than me and as u mentioned above that u recover at 40s
Do u think that at age of 18 i will recover back will be i able to have that natural sexual desire and will be able to have a natural and long lasting erection again
and last and the most important will a girl i mean my near future wife
I will be able to make her sexually happy and can be i a father...
regards,
Fazalesubhan

Otello · Apr 1, 2020

Yes my friend, I am sure you can recover at 100%. You and your wife will be very happy.
Just be strong, look for help in here, read around the forum, be inspired by others.
Keep far from porn. Forget about it. Pray. Exercise. And you will recover completely.
All the best

Deleted Account · May 28, 2020

Hi @Fazalesubhan Khan Kakar, all the best to you! If you want to join 'The Matrix' challenge click here> 'The Matrix'

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