Still having strong urges 1 year 10 months later

This is the battle of the mind.

Arguably it's not watching porn or masturbating per se that is harmful, but it's the lust, it's what you are thinking. I think you need to work in order to become more in control of your thoughts. If you watch fantasy movies in your mind every day then you've only substituted porn with fantasizing, the end result is similar : you're lusting.

Personally I try to avoid this by consciously trying to think about something else whenever I find myself fantasizing.

 

Have you looked into methods of mental fortification or sexual transmutation? If your urges are so much at the forefront of your mind, you may need to give more effort into tackling them head on through introspection and re-directing them to a more beneficial outlet rather than just sitting on them.
I won’t go to deep into it, but mental work outs with meditation or simple daily prayer, along with learning to still the mind with deep breathing can do wonders for getting your priorities straight.
Upping your physical and creative output during this time is also needed so you don’t build up aggression or resentment while celibate.
If all else fails, ride the wave out and you’re guaranteed to come out better the more distance you put between yourself and those old habits. Still it never hurts to be proactive in your healing.

 

I bet you are just going through a bit of a stressful period. Things are kind of rough for a lot of people these days. Look, there is a big difference between objectifying women in your mind and objectifying them in reality. Would anyone watch you and think, "Geez, what a creep. He's always staring at girls." I doubt it.
Accept that you cannot control every damn thought that comes into your mind. Breathe easy and get on with your day.
You are a hero to me - look at your counter! But like so many other guys you are finding that the addiction throws new stuff at you all the time. You got this. Don't let it get you down.

 

Honestly, it sounds like you might be depriving yourself too much. You are 20 years old. Biologically, sexual urges are 100% natural to have. And not having any outlet for these urges, you’re only going to crave it more and more. So be careful not to beat yourself up over having these natural urges. Because the more guilty you feel about it, the harder it is to overcome the urges.

Do you ever talk to or try to date anyone? Maybe put those urges into a satisfying sexual relationship? Not sure where you stand on sex and dating and what not.

 

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When I'm home alone I like to keep myself busy. Whether it's physical exercice, doing chores like cleaning my flat, playing music, or chill by watching a series or playing a video game.

When I'm out, I try to avoid staring at women and look somewhere else when I see something that triggers me.

In general when I get assaulted by these thoughts I try to refocus on what I'm going to do in the near future. Make a mental plan for the day, for example think of my workout routine and how to optimize it, think of what I'm going to cook later on, think of organizing something with my friends.

However I also tell myself I'm not my thoughts. I can't control 100% of my thoughts and that's okay. What I can do is decide what to do when I realize I am having these thoughts : should I continue lusting or should I stop ?

 

I have been there brother! First off congratulations on not relapsing for 2 years. You generate a tremendous amount of sexual tension inside your body by not fapping which needs to be transmuted into something much bigger than what you currently are which takes a lot of struggle and determination. You also gotta introspect if:
1. You might be missing a bigger purpose in your life and have a lot of complacent life? If so think of

1. Why did you start noFap in the first place? is it just to not being addicted to something or to achieve something big by not fapping?
2. Are you good at what you work at right now?? try to move to a more challenging place in whatever you do and aim for a bigger life than what you are currently?

2. You might be working on something stressful that's burning you out to hell? If so think of cooling down a bit here and then by

1. Taking up a healthy hobby that gives you happiness and also people around you, like some form of art, or you can also help people who are struggling here with your 2-year success story already.
2. Helping your friends/GF/parents, etc to get better in their life.

3. You might be ogling a lot of women around you which will trigger a similar response in my experience. If so

1. Understand you can't date/marry/have-kids with random woman out there which might be much worse than PMO addiction.
2. Start thinking of asking-out/dating a woman only whom you gotta marry and gotta have kids with.
3. Start thinking of what kind of woman you want to marry and have kids with, that will clear other women in your head easily.
4. Limit your interactions with women for just helping them out in order for them to grow in their life without expecting anything in return from them (only if you got some free time).

4. Also, you might be watching a lot of social media lately which triggers a lot of PMO urges without our conscious so try to restrict social media to once or twice a week. If you have a strong answer for my first point/question you would automatically restrict social media as a matter of fact.

Wishing you the best!