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New 28 Aussie excited to get underway: 2nd time round.

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by sweetbro22, Apr 7, 2020.

  1. sweetbro22

    sweetbro22 Fapstronaut

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    Hi NoFappers,

    I'm a 28 year old male personal trainer who lives in Australia.

    Today is the first day of my new reboot. Last year I was able to do about 70+ days and felt amazing for it, I felt like the 'real' me had returned! However since I have relapsed during the last 6 months my anxiety, depression and waste of time has spiralled again. It's like I forgot all the benefits I had! I find myself less interested in sex and wanting to get home to cyber sex and use porn. Things I usually liked are of less interest and the shame I feel when and after I PMO is immense. I definitely use porn but more often cyber sex with strangers on phone apps and I never feel good about it. Sometimes I have sent 6+ hours a day doing it, going into a trance like state which I am sure some of you can relate too.

    I'm writing this post because I hope to build a community on here and maybe get an accountability partner eventually. I want to share my story and if any of it is similar to yours would love you to get in contact and give me any advice and go on this journey with me.

    Thanks a lot!
    Sweetbro
     
  2. Hey, welcome to the NoFap community : )

    It's nice to see you here fighting the good fight alongside us!

    Allow me to go ahead and drop some helpful links for you:
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    Here is just some advice:

    First and foremost please take a careful look at each section in the forum, there may be something(s) you will find to be of big help to you.
    Secondly I advise you to be active on your profile(as there a few active people in the profile section). Please start by choosing an avatar and then begin posting frequent status posts to show you're active and needing support/encouragement.
    The forum has got a neat little feature that shows freshly posted statuses for all users to see.
    People will find your profile and give you support.
    There’s a portion of people who love communicating in the profile section..(it should be and is )mostly spportive talk but it doesn't hurt to deviate from supportive conversations. It would be great to have you join in and become part of the team!
    We support one another in the threads, profile posts, and journals/reboot logs.
    Once you receive some support, please be sure and be grateful to the member for the help/support you received and consider giving some in return to anyone you wish.


    Thirdly, you should highly consider creating a public journal/reboot log (in the appropriate section for you) to write about your days in depth for us members to follow along on your journey and offer support to you on.


    Last but not least: Good luck on your journey here, make sure to really give it a try with all your heart!
     
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  3. Heya! Welcome to the forums... :)
     
  4. GloryIsAllMine

    GloryIsAllMine Fapstronaut

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    I can relate to that brother. When I fell down from my streak of 4 months, it took only a little time for me to return back to the square one and lose all my progress.

    That's the nature of this trap. Once you pop, you can't stop and all our life has been a testimony to that.

    It's difficult maintaining longer streaks unless you aren't inspired by some spiritual ideals.
    It's difficult maintaining longer streaks if you aren't obsessed about some legit missions.

    The voice of lust would call you back to its world when it sees you defeating it but it's important to nip off the sexual thoughts in the inception stage. Also, you have to have your sexual philosophy. I plan to only use my sexual energy with my partner, and that too in strict moderation.

    No man can ever feel good for losing his finest energy on little pleasures.

    But what happens after that? Do you like that steep drop and then dragging on that cheerless, dreary existence for many days?

    I wish you all the best. If you did 70+ days back in the past, you can still do that. I believe in you.
     
    Last edited: Apr 8, 2020
  5. | Nico |

    | Nico | Distinguished Fapstronaut
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    Welcome to the forum buddy, best of luck on your journey :)
     
  6. The Free Bird

    The Free Bird Fapstronaut

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    Hi, welcome to the community

    I would recommend you to stay in touch with members and read their success stories. You may also learn tricks to avoid the short-term pleasure and to face the temptations.

    Be AWARE of your habits and control what you see and what/who you spend your time with.

    It's also important to limit the usage of social media. In addition, never be free! Use your free time as much as possible and do sports, exercise, attend classes, etc.


    This video contains everything that you need to know about porn addiction. Lastly, here is a collection of ways to deal with the urges which worked great for me.

    ֍ You got this my friend ֍
     

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