How to free myself of my fetishes?

I would say to focus on that its a fetish and its fantasy of fantasies. whenver you think about it divert yourattention to somethingh like its my thought and its not real or somethingh to affirm that you will not stand to be that person anymore. best of luck brother.

 

im not said im recovered but im better now, for almost 11 year of addiction

im shame to tell my fetish tho and because it might be triggering i wont tell it

but the NoFap is work to reduce it wheter u cured from it or not. its depends on you because u need disipline to make it work. and disipline is not easy as it said

 

NoFap is the cure.

 

And after being on nofap for as long as you have, do you find that your cravings for those fetishes has gone away? Does a real life girl excite and arouse you the same as your fetishes did?

This is what I'm absolutely terrified of. Much like OP, I've had these fetishes since I was like 6 years old, I'm now 30 and have been watching messed up porn since I was 10, non stop for 2 decades now and I can't imagine not being aroused by that sick fake stuff that I won't mention here but similar to OP.

Please tells me it gets better and I'll just be a normal man....

 

it might be hard truth but i will tell you not yet bro, just like i said i'm not recovered but i'm better

and for your information my fetish its a little bit like foot fetish, i mean i can see it if i wanted it even without the help of porn and it attach on woman body how come real girl not excite me bro ?

i was saw some experienced on member here, he states and proved that hardcore user of porn like us (im 28 btw and i guess the time we exposed to porn not so different) need more than 90 day's to be cured.... so like i said im not feeling down that even after 90 day's im not fully cured, its a process that i must take

 

This is such an important issue. I'm new the page and I have to know that I can get cured. I'm sick and tired of ruining relationships. I have to know that at the end of this tunnel there will be a healthy relationship with myself first then with a woman. #Depressed but ready

 

I also have a fetish (tickling fetish) that i'm carrying bad and think i will not ever get rid of it, but doing this maybe i can live with it, and in a healthy and not shameful way that make me feel less than others.

 

it's simple, there's only one way: quit.

If you keep relapsing every 3 days for a reason or another, then you'll never get rid of it.

 

You are dealing with escalation and porn induced fetishes. What you need to do is condition your brain to like regular pornography before starting complete abstinence. Abstain from your fetish and triggers for no less than 48 hours time. After every 48 hours ejaculate to REGULAR pornography repeating this cycle for a few months. Your fetish will fade overtime but you mustn't feed into your fetish. Follow this conditioning ritual to rewire your brain and it wont return. You just need time and patience to heal your wounds.

 

I shall explain you step-by-step guide on how to deal with your current situation. I was exactly in the same spot, hears how I manage to deal with it. This isn't a 'cure' or some shit of promise. Follow along, you'll be fine.
Basic stuff:
Quit Porn, Masturbation.
I want you to pick up books and start reading.
Hit the gym every fucking day, no excuses.
Get started with a new course.
Difficult stuff:
Stop thinking about cuckolding, porn, or any sort of stuff now. This is literally the toughest thing to do, because you just can't seem to forget something that's been terrifying you.
Stop using the forum frequently, because you'll come across with more problems, you might find it harder to get over your own.
My personal approach and current streak:
A lot of things have happened in my life since the last time I watched porn and masturbated. Here's the first rule, this is YOUR journey, don't live by others. Don't give a damn about your friends taunting you or anybody making fun of your methods. Right now, I recently went through a break up, inspite of that, I did not fall back to my old habits. Guess what? You know how good that feels? When you have control over the situation, you know these fetishes won't do any shit to you. On day 40-50 I disabled all my blockers, enabled safari, got back on my computer. YET, I did not relapsed. My willpower is so fucking strong, I can have a sex scene right in front of me, and I can close my eyes to avoid it. I won't lie to you, I have had slips too, but what matters to me is, I was able to stop myself. This is my journey, I don't judge it with other's standards. You will be fine, if you want to be fine.

 

I've got good news and bad news for you, but the good news predominates. I'm 63 and have had a spanking fetish since I was 5 years old. I've experimented with it in real life, and for the last 20 years or so, I've PMO'd to videos of it. The bad news is that there is no cure. It doesn't go away. I'm doing therapy for it and for the PMO now, and the therapist was upfront about admitting that the fetish will always occupy a part of my brain. The good news is that you can wipe out much of its power over you. The fetish -- all fetishes -- are rooted in shame. I know that you are ashamed of your fetish, but that is a delusion. If you developed the fetish when you were very young, no matter how you acquired it, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. No 6 year old can be blamed for sexualizing non-mainstream concepts. Whether you were personally exposed to it or whether you just made some silly and unfounded connections as a child, you didn't do anything wrong. So there is no reason to be ashamed. I strongly recommend private therapy to help you let go of the feelings of shame surrounding your fetish. The therapy will probably include a period of celibacy, which is something that NoFap can help you with. But unless you have the introspection ability of a shaman, you will need the help of a psychologist or therapist to figure out how the sense of shame grew in you and how to pull it out by the roots. The bonus is that you will come to enjoy the therapy, it will help to transform you into the person you always wanted to be, and you will be much happier for it. Good luck!

 

It won't go away by doing nofap but you can get rid of it entirely. Please see this link https://www.medicinenet.com/paraphilia/article.htm#what_is_the_treatment_for_paraphilia

 

I just read the article that you gave the link for. It does NOT suggest a way to make the fetish go away. It discusses "cognitive behavioral therapy" to help prevent the patient from acting on the fetish. The article says, "This approach tries to help the paraphilic person anticipate situations that increase their risk of sexually acting out and finding ways to avoid or more productively respond to those triggers." Even if the therapy is successful, the patient will still have the fetish in his head; the attraction of the fetish won't go away. The patient merely learns to recognize situations where his fetish may cause him to behave inappropriately and to avoid that situation or that behavior. I've spent 50+ years looking for a way to get rid of my fetish, including in-depth psychological research and individual therapy, and it seems to be an unattainable goal.

 

I'm not gonna be like that. But it sounds like what you need is a detox.

Try 30-90 days and see where that leads you. Don't concern youself with the types of fetishes you have. Focus on yourself etc. Sounds really cliche I know but, try it?
If you do that, the fetishes might just take care of themselves along the way...

I know I make this sounds super easy and all and it seems like my fetishes aren't too bad etc so I might not be able to get into your situation. But I am trying to help best way I can!

 

That being said tho. Some fetishes comes with you from birth. I believe mine do. And then there's nothing you can do but to accept them being there. Those fetishes you can't get rid of. What you can do is to control them.