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Suppression of sexual energy

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Deleted Account, May 3, 2020.

  1. The first time i started Nofap, i didn't have much information. I did Nofap, but fantasized and wanted to go to prostitutes etc. I was also on dating websites.
    I know it's wasn't perfect, but i felt the energy and just felt good.
    This time i did more like a Nofap on monk mode and stopped fanaties, tried not to look at women as sexual objects etc.
    The problem is i think it's more like a suppression of my sexual energy.
    So my question is, how can i have the energy back? Am i doing something wrong?
    I'm sure if i would tell myself today i would watch porn i would feel more energy. Of course not afterwards and it's not an option for me.
    Do you have strategies?
     
  2. User55

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    I have the same question
     
  3. I have just seen a video about breathing technics to transmute the enery. If anyone does the, does it work? And if yes, how often?
     
  4. ELN

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    I am not sure if I have understood you well. Do you mean sexual energy to do other things?
    I think we have to focus on keeping away off PMO and soon or later energy will come.
    Maybe are your body a little depressed due to the new lack of dopamine? I do not know.
    How many days have you been free of PMO?
     
  5. I have been away from pmo a few time. I had a time when i did it only a few days for testosterone. But also longer streaks.
    For me it's hard to feel the energy because i know i wont live out my sexuality in near future.
    And always trying no to look at women in a sexual way or always trying to avoid seeing something sexual feel to me like suppressing it and i dont get the same enery like when i told myself that for example today i'm watching porn videos. I felt better before not afterwards. You understand what i mean?
     
  6. Bluespace123

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    First of all don't ever suppress your feelings wheather they are sexual or not. The point of nofap is to work through your sexual feeling in a healthy way instead of using PMO which is destructive. If you feel urges don't try to force them away, it will only cause tension in yourself which could lead to a relapse, instead feeling those urges through and stay with them without reacting. I think it's a good idea to learn new habits to help with the build up of sexual energy, like going for a walk or a run, even just reading a book has helped me work through urges before. But trying to suppress the way you feel won't really work in the long term. It's like trying to force your hunger away, its gonna come back eventually.
     
  7. Bagration1944

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    Your sexual energy is dissapearing, be careful, you can fantasize but no masturbate
     
  8. I know i won't mastrubate. I have a high will power.
    So is it ok to fantasize if i'm not mastrubating. I'm not sure if the thought will disappear soon when i start
     
  9. Alexander Babu

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    No. It's not okay. Even if you won't masturbate, fantasizing or watching porn does have a negative effect on your brain. So, a Big No.
     
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  10. I just did it and realised that it's not good.
    I think i'll do more breathing technic
     
  11. ThomasTheCat

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    Even fantasizing about real women?
     
  12. I think it's a balance between seeing it in a positive way to have fanaties and looking at women but telling yourself to use this energy in another way like job sports etc.
    But by telling yourself it's only negative to have that could be unhealthy. It's difficult i think
     
  13. Di.Do.555

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    Sexual energy can't be suppressed.
    It is like the fire within , it is always burning but the trick is to keep it under control by scarcely feeding it.
    Unfortunately, we are all subjects in a universal experiment, we are all over-sexualised.
    it would be a near impossibility to escape unless you live in acave - with no internet :eek:
    Sex is everywhere and this sacred fire is out of control at the moment.
    The consequences are devastating.
    Women and young people are the first victims of such an unethical experiment.

    Sexual energy is a sacred energy , to warm you and your partner up.
    But when you start using this fire to escape from your anxious self , it gets out of control and consumes everything it finds and eventually consumes you.
    You are doing NoFap to negotiate a new agreement , an agreement where you will never handle life by escaping to pmo.
     
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  14. I will not do pmo again. I haven't watched porn for more than 1,5 years (Not fapped for 123 days).
    But how do you react seeing a beautiful girl? Do you see it negative when you get attracted.
    We can't do somthing against oversexualised society. When girls put on sexy clothes for example. You can even get attracted by advertisment on tv, mobile phone or posters. So i have to find strategies to deal with it.
    Maybe it's not right to say that i suppressed the sexual energy. Maybe it's better to call it sexual attraction
     
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  15. Di.Do.555

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    My rule is: one second is a second too late.
    You train yourself over and over not to react. It takes months if not years.
    We are addicted to the rush of chemicals when we see a beautiful woman , but as you said no to pmo you could say no to staring for too long.
    As for sexual transmutation, it is using the excess energy that you have saved by going on semen retention on a worthwhile project.
    Please check Marnia Robinson's book " cupid's poisoned arrow " to understand sexual energy and other great concepts.
    Another subject you could search on YouTube is
    "Sexual transmutation ", plenty of great videos.
    To be successful you need to meditate ,excercise , do breathwork, and teach your mind to feel gratitude in all conditions.
     
  16. I still have the feeling trying to avoid looking at women and acting like asexual is unnatural.
    Does anyone else has that feeling.
    I think sometimes you have to be more relaxed and just be a human just without bingefapping and porn
     
  17. Nak

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    During your nofap journey you will cross period of flatline which charaterized by low of energy and no sexual desire...dont warry,go on...hope every thing will be okay..
     
  18. Everytime i try to avoid sexuality i feel worse. As soon as i dont care to much i feel better
    I have to add that i have problems with perfectionism.
    I dont even have a problem with not fapping. And avoid porn is even more easier . It's now between 1,5 and 2 years ago since my last porn i watched
    Maybe i have a different problem than most of you. Motivation is not my problem at all
     

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