I had 21 days nofap streak for the first time ever (I think before that I had such a long nofap streak only once or two times in my life since I started masturbating). I'll copy from my journal: Kind of relapsed yesterday. Why kind of? Because it happened with a girl that I was talking via webcam for hours and we decided to have webcam sex. I do not regret because for me it is not the same as watching "free porn". And also I am proud and happy for my 21 days streak (first time nofap ever). Also I think I have learnt a lot from my previous streak. And now I do believe in nofap superpowers and I will continue this practice. I think that 1 PMO in 30 days will work the best for me. Because during last days of my previous streak I kind of felt that I physically need to have an orgasm - not like I wanted to watch porn, but just my body needed it. Well, there is another problem. With that girl we are going to continue communicating today and further. And very probably this will lead to more webcam sex. On one hand I want to start my next nofap streak from blank sheet, but on the other hand, I do not believe that our communication with that girl will last any long, so I won't have to refuse her, and in a week or two we will stop communicating and then I will start next nofap streak. I don't know yet. Should I just play "relationship" a bit with her and after we stop communicating, I will start next nofap 30 days streak, or should I ignore her and start nofap streak immidiately?
I think its best you decide. Another way of looking at this is every 30 days you can MO without P. Try to customize your plan in any way that makes you feel better, try hard to keep out P or the feeling of P. Best wishes!
You say, "I think that 1 PMO in 30 days will work the best for me." That won't work well for anybody. Imagine a heroin addict saying that 1 score in 30 days will work best for me! What reason do you give for this? You say, "Because during last days of my previous streak I kind of felt that I physically need to have an orgasm - not like I wanted to watch porn, but just my body needed it." Imagine a heroin addict saying that during last days of my previous streak I kind of felt that I physically need to have a fix - not like I wanted to have heroin, but just my body needed it! Can you hear what you are really saying. This is your brain rationalising and normalising masturbation to porn as being acceptable. But it isn't, for any so-called reason.
I strongly agree with Igy. For someone to suggest "rewarding" themselves after a 30 day streak just implies the lack of understanding about this addiction. It's planning to fail. It may seem sane at first. But it's got failure written all over it. Keep trying it and see. To be free of this, you have to get deeper than just counting days. We all have lots of work to do.
What's wrong with rewarding yourself with REAL sex after a 30 day streak? Why do you want to MO or look at P instead? Fellas, PMOing and MOing is corny! Having successful enjoyable sex is a mans game.
Your statement shows your ignorance regarding the basic steps to follow in order to succeed in the recovering process. I invite you to watch those videos to get educated about what I'm dealing with : See ya !
