Hello everyone, New here... Today I decided to seriously quit watching pornographic material, something i’ve been doing for a very long time now. I got to know NoFap community some time ago. Somehow it got me into trying to stop watching porn all together. So I had a few attempts at quitting. Never got past 8 days... But ever since I started trying this out, I became somewhat obsessed with quitting porn. Since the seed is planted in my head on how bad porn is. I realised how addicted I was once I started kicking the habit. After a week I did refind some selfbelief some ‘pride’. But a relapse was inevitable since I didn’t do enough soulsearchign maybe how to kick the habit for good by identifying my triggers for instance, for me being: boredom, loneliness, anger, feeling sad, depression etc... This might all sound quite standard. Let me tell you in the past decades of watching porn I’ve been diagnosed with social anxiety, depression etc... and been prescribed all sorts of medication. Have to say, after watching and reading alot about porn addiction and it’s big negative impacts on one’s social life and self image... All my problems can be traced back to watching pornographic material! The shame, the lack of motivation, the guilt, the feeling of being weak. Right after the porn fix, I feel terrible... I have a very small social circle. So the tendency to fall back into watching porn is pretty big. But now I’m experiencing erectile dysfunction as well. As if feeling horrible isn’t bad enough. I want to reclaim my brain, feel good about myself. Have normal mood-swings instead of massive depressions and above all find joy again in human interaction... have joy listening to music or watching the clouds for instance. I really want to quit and I hope I can motivate / help others and vice versa. Wishing you all the best in kicking this habit for good! Sincerely, Sjors
Welcome to the community, thank you for sharing your story, can relate to it a lot. Hope you have an amazing time here, anything we can assist you with let us know. Take care
[QUOTE = "Sjors, पोस्ट: 2531058, सदस्य: 394424"] सर्वांना नमस्कार, नवीन येथे ... आज मी अश्लील सामग्री पाहणे गंभीरपणे सोडण्याचा निर्णय घेतला आहे, जे आतापासून मी बर्‍याच काळापासून करीत आहे. काही काळापूर्वी मला नोफॅप समुदायाची ओळख झाली. असं असलं तरी मला सर्व एकत्र एकत्र पॉर्न पाहण्याचा थांबवण्याचा प्रयत्न झाला. म्हणून सोडण्याचे माझे काही प्रयत्न झाले. गेल्या 8 दिवसांपूर्वी कधीही आला नाही ... परंतु जेव्हापासून मी हे प्रयत्न करायला लागलो, तेव्हापासून मी पॉर्न सोडण्याचा काहीसा वेड बनलो. अश्लीलता किती वाईट आहे यावर माझ्या डोक्यात बी लावले गेले आहे. एकदा मी सवयी लाथ मारण्यास सुरूवात केली तेव्हा मला किती व्यसन लागले हे माझ्या लक्षात आले. एका आठवड्यानंतर मी काही आत्मविश्वास परत केला काही 'अभिमान'. पण पुन्हा अपरिहार्यता मी अपरिहार्य होती कारण मी पुरेशी आत्मसात केली नाही कारण कदाचित माझ्या सवयीची ओळख करून देऊन चांगल्याची सवय कशी लावायची, उदाहरणार्थ: कंटाळवाणेपणा, एकाकीपणा, राग, उदासिनता, नैराश्य इत्यादी ... This might all sound quite standard. Let me tell you in the past decades of watching porn I’ve been diagnosed with social anxiety, depression etc... and been prescribed all sorts of medication. Have to say, after watching and reading alot about porn addiction and it’s big negative impacts on one’s social life and self image... All my problems can be traced back to watching pornographic material! The shame, the lack of motivation, the guilt, the feeling of being weak. Right after the porn fix, I feel terrible... I have a very small social circle. So the tendency to fall back into watching porn is pretty big. But now I’m experiencing erectile dysfunction as well. As if feeling horrible isn’t bad enough. मला माझ्या मेंदूवर पुन्हा हक्क सांगायचा आहे, मला स्वतःबद्दल चांगले वाटते आहे. प्रचंड नैराश्याऐवजी सामान्य मनःस्थितीत बदला आणि सर्वांनी पुन्हा मानवी संवादात पुन्हा आनंद मिळवा ... संगीत ऐकताना किंवा ढग पाहताना आनंद घ्या. मला खरोखरच सोडायचे आहे आणि मला आशा आहे की मी इतरांना प्रवृत्त / मदत करू शकेल आणि त्याउलट. चांगल्यासाठी ही सवय लाथ मारण्याबद्दल आपणा सर्वांना शुभेच्छा! प्रामाणिकपणे, Sjors [/ quot]
Hey, welcome to the NoFap community : ) It's nice to see you here fighting the good fight alongside us! First let me go ahead and drop some helpful links for you: Getting Started Guide / Forum Rules / How to Use the NoFap forums/ Glossary/ NoFap Panic button/ Set up your day counter / Rebooting Resources/ Accountability groups (new!)/ About NoFap/ Support NoFap Here is just some advice: First and foremost please take a careful look at each section in the forum, there may be something(s) you will find to be of big help to you. Secondly I advise you to be active on your profile(as there a few active people in the profile section). Please start by choosing an avatar and then begin posting frequent status posts to show you're active and needing support/encouragement. The forum has got a neat little feature that shows freshly posted statuses for all users to see. People will find your profile and give you support. There’s a portion of people who love communicating in the profile section..(it should be and is )mostly spportive talk but it doesn't hurt to deviate from supportive conversations. It would be great to have you join in and become part of the team! We support others in the threads, profile posts, and journals/reboot logs. Once you receive some support, please be sure and be grateful to the member for the help/support you received and consider giving some in return to anyone you wish. Thirdly, you should highly consider creating a public journal/reboot log (in the appropriate sectionfor you) to write about your days in depth for us members to follow along on your journey and offer support to you on. Please start your journal in the correct section and with that, also try your best to post in the correct sections as it is mandatory and would be helpful to the mods who organize the forum. : ) Last but not least: Good luck on your journey here, make sure to really give it a try with all your heart!
@Coffee Candy, thank you for your reply. I will look into all these things. Hope I can be of good use to others here aswell. Just created my personal reboot journal, hope all is up to the standards
Hey @Sjors - Welcome to the community. I can relate to quite a few things you said - especially that small social circle. I hope you will find loads of new friends here who will help you on your journey to become the best version of yourself.
