My plan when i will be fully recovered

You are doing the right thing by taking accountability for yourself

 

That shows their level of Maturity: Not even a late teen is so immature.

It’s your choice finally, But
don’t even bother to go and argue with them. Their Brain can’t process it.

 

what they think about you is there problem, u should don't have about what they think
Let them do there work ,u should do your own.
take this as a challenge for yourself to recover from this out.
decision isn't that difficult but the path is
slow n steady(most importantly ) wins the race.

it will be great to see u at top.
it will take time,just don't loose hope.

 

That was a really bold and courageous move to open up to your friend about your pmo addiction. I'm sorry that it backfired.
But it doesn't matter in the end, as you need to beat this thing for you and you only, not your 'friends' or anyone else! Best of luck buddy.

 

Already off to a horrible start.

You need to realize that every man on this earth holds an opinion. It's not your job to change a single one of them, unless you're either a religious fanatic or a politician.

Just let the world be.

 

My dude, I do not question your conviction or rightness in this scenario, but there's nothing you can teach him that his mother couldn't. People are- more often than not- beyond reasoning the moment they become adults. Only mistakes and failures can teach them anything and it's not your job to make him realize that.
Save your energy.
He is highly unlikely to learn anything from it.

That's what I mean. Save your breath.

 

@polishguy1993 I’m so sorry that happened. I can understand your feelings. If that happened to me, I would feel hurt, angry and deeply embarrassed.

Thank you for posting about it here. This is a safe place to share and vent. And that means you are off to a great start!

Feelings are always valid, and so are your feelings. What matters is whether you respond to or react to your feelings. It’s Always better to respond and avoid reacting, whenever possible.

Responding to feelings is fully acknowledging your feelings and being with them through contemplation, meditation, journaling or any deeply introspective personal work.

On the other hand, Reacting is trying to change something or someone in your worldly experience in an attempt to change how you are feeling in your inner experience.

We can’t change anyone, and although it is challenging, I encourage you to accept what happened and use this as an opportunity for growth.

Their reactions are their way of avoiding their own deeply uncomfortable feelings and issues they are not yet ready to acknowledge and work through.

Their reaction is no reflection on you.

Doing the work that you are doing and being open and honest about your issues takes a lot of guts, courage and authenticity that most people don’t have.

That reflects very positively on you.

 

Keep your convictions strong. They will guide you to a higher level of existence. Transcend anger. Turn it into rage and passion. You are already better than these people.

Well done.

 

Two very important rules: you don't talk about your goals to anybody, and you don't talk about your problems (for example your porn addiction) to anybody except people who love you and know you well. That's it.

Don't do the same mistake again. The problem of porn and porn addiction is still very new and most people aren't aware of it, so in my opinion, it's pretty dumb to talk about it with people who surely don't care about that. Here your colleagues probably think that masturbating to porn is healthy and makes them feel like "true men". And you know what? That's totally fine. You can't change people. Period. I know your intentions were good but don't waste your time by arguing with anyone. Do your things and let time do its work.

Stay strong.

 

That's part of the process, my friend. Take your time and work things out, but do not let the memory of the betrayal hold power over your emotions still. It's a slow process but very much possible.

Know who is worthy of your trust and how much trust, exactly, you can risk placing in which people. Be optimistic but not foolish.

You got this.

 

"Share your weaknesses. Share your hard moments. Share your real side. It'll either scare away every fake person in your life or it will inspire them to finally let go of that mirage called 'perfection', which will open the doors to the most important relationships you'll ever be a part of."
- Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing