Hey guys. Hope everyone is staying committed to their goals. I'm eleven days in and I am doing very well. No others or anything, probably because I've been studying a lot. Today, as I was reading success stories and other articles I came across anxiety induced ED. I didn't know about this until today. I thought there was only PIED. Anyway, I can get an erection without porn but it's not so solid and sometimes I do get an erection when I'm with a partner and it's solid enough but it's only in certain positions, I get soft when ever she's on top. What do I have? PIED or AIED? I do get a little worried about how I will perform. Is this hurting my performance? I stopped watching porn on feb. 29th and I'm 11 days NoFap. Can anyone help me out with these questions? Or anyone on the same boat? Thanks
Hi there mickeyds, Firstly, we cannot offer any medical advice related to ED because we are not qualified to make a diagnosis on the internet (the following link has enough information about ED and when to meet a doctor if you have questions http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/Erectile-dysfunction/Pages/Introduction.aspx). Most porn induced ED (PIED) naturally fades away with time as the person strays away from porn and masturbation ( to know the harmful effects of porn and PIED check out http://yourbrainonporn.com/ ) . 11 days of abstinence is great! keep up (no pun intended) the good work. Most people find a 90 to 180 day reboot very efficient and the change manifests in many forms and your focus must be on improving the quality of your life, being happy and also of course to performing better with your significant other. But I think 11 days is not enough time for you to make a full recovery. I will give you a good example, you cannot go to gym and focus on training on your left leg only to become healthy. You go to the gym to improve the overall condition of your body , similarly you reboot to manifest a better version of you by changing your lifestyle completely from thoughts and actions. Enibeni
Hey! Yeah I totally understand what you're saying. I came across anxiety induced ED which was listed on yourbrainonporn.com and I'm not really looking for a diagnostic. Instead, I was hoping I'd get a response from someone that may probably relate to my situation. I was a PMO guy and after quitting P about 3 months ago then I started NoFap. I do know that at some point I couldn't reach an erection Infront of 2 of my exes. So I come from PMO and I probably worried so much about how I would perform and that probably caused anxiety issues. Anyway, these are just questions. Seeking professional help takes time and it was something that was on my mind today so the quickest way was to read about and ask about through this forum. I know 11 days is nothing, I'm not expecting to gain full recovery just yet. I'm just trying to figure out where I stand at this point. Thank you for your response. It was helpful!
If you can get an erection with porn but lose it with your partner then you probably just have PIED. I was also too worried about this as it is difficult to tell. The only real way you will know is by either going to the doctor to rule out any other biological problems, or by completing a reboot and if you are still experiencing problems then you know that something else is wrong. I am like you and when my girlfriend is on top I lose my erection. I have come to the conclusion that this is due to a few things. The first being the usual that our brains are wired to porn and not actual people so therefore we don't get as much dopamine. Another reason is because from masturbating you may have desensitized your penis. This is where common as a women's vagina is nothing like your hand and a reboot and staying away from PMOing would sort this out. And the third is stress and worrying. I think that maybe you're worrrying about having performance anxiety so much that you have performance anxiety if that makes sense. Tell your partner how you feel about this. Maybe it will help. I'm not a doctor or anything so this isn't professional medical advice it's just my personal opinion. 11 days is a huge achievement by the way! You have a long way to go like me but 11 days is huge! Many people relapse before 11 days so don't put yourself down and say it's nothing. It's one step closer to your goal. Good luck!
Hey Harry! What you're saying totally makes sense. I remember worrying about how I would perform with my last gf but These thoughts would come out of nowhere. They weren't really there when we were about to do it. I just remember avoiding her being on top because I knew I couldn't stay with an erection and she was aware of it. I would stay rock hard whenever I was on top and in a dominating position. Probably because when I watched P that was my preference. I remember two or three times though I actually was able to stay hard with her on top but that was because I had stopped watching P and maybe that helped but we didn't feel connected... Sex was just something to do and never really had passion and we never made love. I think P led me to objectifying women and not really recognizing them as people. They were just something that made me ejaculate. Eventually we broke up though. That has led me to here... I need to stop. I have stopped. I'm starting my day 12, I still can't believe it. This is the longest I have EVER gone. For the past 15 years I probably M to P or without P consistently almost every day. I feel great! Thanks Harry
I tried to avoid her going on top too! I felt bad because she always thought it was her when in actual fact I was the problem. I think watching P gives a false representation of real sex so yes because you stopped watching it may be the reason of your lasting erection. Did you kiss lots? I find that very passionate and afterwards stuff like cuddling and kissing all leads to improved connection. Plus women love that anyway. Stuff like that also helps rewire our brain away from P and onto an actual partner. I completely get what you mean about objectifying women. I have the same problem so I have set a 3 second rule for myself where if I see an attractive girl, rather than staring at her thinking sexually about her I would just notice her, notice something nice about her (non sexual e.g. smile or hair etc), and then move on. This helps me to stop seeing women as sexual objects. Day 12 is amazing! I have stopped for a week and that's the longest for me too. Keep it up!
Bro basically we are on same boat. I don't think I kissed much I just focused on get it in and out and that's it. If I kissed her it was probably just at the beginning. In my head I was just trying to do everything people on P do. So I wasn't really focusing on the beauty of actually making love to a girl. My day 12 is finished. I feel good bro! I haven't thought of M or P at all. I hope you can reach you goals. Thanks Harry
Kissing the SO. Something so basic but forgotten in the PMO nightmare. I’m going to kiss my SO more often to generate a sexual connection and rewire the brain!
