So I’m going to be hanging out with this girl later tonight, sex may or may not happen but anyways today marks literally my 1 month! I feel like I’m in sort of a flatline as I’ve been irritated easy, been anxious all day since I got a dopamine rush from peeking at pics and slightly edging this morning but I have also been feeling slight anxiety past few days, I kinda felt like a plain blah feeling for a day or two. I’ve been craving dopamine rush past day or two. Anyways last time I had sex was basically 3 years ago and I couldn’t get it up. I am wondering if we were to get in motion for sex should I tell her my potential issues or wait and see if the issue arises first? How would I go about saying it?
In my opinion you'd better tell her before foreplay, that way she might still be down for foreplay and then sex but if you can't perform at least she'll know why and will be less disappointed. However don't tell her about the full PIED just tell her you have ED and that is a medical condition you have had for a long time. My point is, if you just met this girl and it's the first time you're having sex she might feel like you're a weirdo since you watched porn up to the point of being unable to perform with a real life partner. If you feel comfortable with her however you may tell her of course. Stay strong you're well on your path to recovery !
I had this situation a year ago. She was really hot, our first time together but i suffered PIED. I don't let this bother me at all, and just acted like it wasn't a big deal and proceeded to please her orally and hand, she came 2 times.. she really enjoyed it but she also wanted sex, i just tell her that my body didn't wanted to get up, that sometime happens and when it does heavy foreplay always do the trick, "no customer left this bed unsatisfied" i joked and she laughed. In the morning we do it again without sex either. We see each other the next week and that night i was able to get it up and have sex in the night and in the next morning. Just go and have fun with her. if sex happens and your buddy didn't get up just please her in other ways. If after that she ask you about it, just minimize the situation, be fun about it. If you don't give a fuck about it and act like you are having a great time she is not going to be that much worried or bothered about it. In the contrary if before hand you told her that you may be damage and make a drama out of it is going to turn her off and probably don't want to even do foreplay with you or see you again. Good luck!!
