I was able to say no for the first time recently

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by AssistantRegionalManager, Aug 23, 2020.

  1. So for a long time, pretty much since I lost my virginity, I based a lot of my self-worth on whether women would have sex with me or not.

    It's horrible to think about that now, but I put so much effort into getting women to sleep with me that I wasn't putting effort in to genuinely be friends with people or these women.

    I would also basically have sex with any woman that wanted to because I wanted to be wanted. It was a self-esteem thing.

    Recently, I don't know what changed but for the first time ever I was able to say no to a woman who wanted to have sex with me and she wanted to do some really risky things. At first I was thinking about it, but then I caught myself thinking about it, I took a step back and asked myself is this someone who I actually would really want to have sex with? The answer was no, so I told her no and blocked her on everything I could.

    I struggled with the disappointment of not getting laid but I was more proud of myself for being able to control myself and say no.
     
  2. Well done!!
     
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  3. Chefb87

    Chefb87 Fapstronaut

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    Assistant to* the regional manager :)
     
  4. You made a mature decision and you now realize just because it was a good one it doesn't feel entirely great, but that's how we grow. Keep up the good work. The world needs more guys like you.
     
  5. archie.hill

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    That’s really great!
     

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