Break ups. How does your life change while you suffer and go on? What do you do? Is it hard for you?

If she couldn't handle you at your worst, she doesn't deserve you at your best bro. I'm in the process of healing from my last relationship as well. It's not easy. But hopefully we'll be able to move on soon to girls that care more about us and value us for who we are.

 

If You Can Love The Wrong Person That Much, Imagine How Much You Can Love The Right One

I fell in love with an already taken woman without knowing it... I was her rebound (I found out that she went on vaccation twice with her ex or now again boyfriend last month)

I took solace in the fact that they already were together for 8 years... her story is with him not me... it takes alot of strength to admit that

it cut like a knife and my heart was set on fire because I wasnt expecting this

but after the initial shock I started to ask the big questions in life
am I happy? with my job? how my life is going? where I want to go in life?

I have a shit 5 to 9 job with toxic personel and a toxic, sadistic and narcistic boss, his wife is also a total bitch

I want to study something in the future but without work experience I'm just delaying unemployment

I want to become a better man so

was added to my list, jordan peterson helped me a lot

my first goal is to be happy with little so I can focus on the bigger goals with a good base

sometimes fate appeares out of nowhere and puts us "broken" people together

 

That's really good. Loving yourself is the best feeling you can have, that's where confidence is born.

It's not like this.. is more like "how can other people love you, when you don't love yourself?"

then don't do it, but it doesn't mean you should be alone. go out and have fun with woman. If you suddenly fall for some of them and start a relationship then great. It's a fact that you are still missing your ex because you didn't met anyone special in your life yet or your didn't took a few years to heal from it.

She dumped you, so she is not. She considered that she was going to be better without you, so don't waste more time thinking about her.

Why would she care? if she have her shit together why would she put up with a guy that didn't have his shit together? She went and choose a guy that got his shit together. Is totally predictable from her, woman have a lot of options.. if you are not at her lever she can replace you in a minute, it's a hard reality but it is what it is.

That is what she was feeling in that moment. She felt you weren't able to change so she told it to you. That's her opinion, only one person opinion, don't make it your own.

People don't change, but they can became the best version they can be. You are doing that so you are in a good path.
She dumped you.. she basically tell you you are garbage and that she didn't want to be with you anymore. Why in the hell would you want a second chance with a woman that tell you that?? have some self-respect. If for some reason she contact you in the future she is the one that need to gain another chance with you, not the other way around.
I personally don't give second chances, they normally come back because they didn't find something better out there and need some safety with you while they keep searching for another guy.

Again, date other woman to have fun. to met new people. to have new experiences. Dating is not the same as having a new relationship.

This is not true. She don't have to handle you at your worst. If you are in a really good moment and you SO is a mess then is time to move on or she will bring you down too. If you are in a really bad place and she is in a really good one, or you get your shit together or she is going to be happy with another man that is in a good place.

If you are a mess then who you are is a mess, it doesn't matter if you are a nice guy.. you are still a mess and not fun to be around at all. A woman that is in a good place is going to look at you as a burden and of course she is going to be better without you.
You are looking for a woman that is going to be with you when she is in her best moment when you are in your worst... I'm sorry to tell you, but those woman's don't exist. Woman want the better man they can get, they are not going to settle with a guy at his worst, they are going to go out there and find a better one, because they simple have a lot of options to choose from.

 

You want a life partner that will stay with you and love you through your ups and downs in life. Meaning they love you for who you are and not your current circumstances. It's true that most women aren't like this but their are good ones out there. So just to reiterate, no she doesn't deserve you at your best if she can't stick around and ride out tough times with you especially if you're making an effort to change for the better.

And since we broke up their is a lot less anxiety in my life. My ex played a lot of mind games and was never really there for me anyways. I'm better off without her. I can focus more on my career and goals now. Tbh, typically the right woman comes into your life when you're focusing on improving yourself.