Who's up for a JULY challenge?

I feel soo down last couple day. now I feel suicidal. what can I do? please help

 

Good job man, you motivate us all! I am sure that when you are over the pmo addiction, alcohol will be the next bad habit you will throw out of your life.

All I have to say is that I am doing great. Although I didn't make the entire month, I am finally to a point that I don't really feel like watching P anymore and that whenever I have urges to M, my mind automatically rejects is because I am used to doing that. I know that I have a long way ahead of me but for now this is already a great improvement!

I am also finally facing my eating anxiety and trying to actively accept and destroy it. Not so many improvements there yet, but I do feel proud of facing my fears and throw myself into situations that were unthinkable before. I also met a great girl last week and we had great sex. I don't think this will affect my NF thing because I really like her and it was more passionate than giving in to hornyness urges. I really want to spend more time with her although this is also something that really scares me. But that's ok. It won't kill me, it can only make me better. And if I fail, then I know that I've tried, and that feels way better than staying home fapping all day and cancelling all social plans.

I also noticed that I can hang out with girls differently. Usually if I was around girls, at some point I only thought about whether I wanted to sleep with them or not. And if I didn't, I was not interested at all and had no intention to even talk to them or felt pretty anxious because my horny-self didn't pushed me through. Just going to the gym with a girl or play some x-box without the intention to get laid is really relaxing and a big eye-opener. I come from a broken home with only boys, so I am still figuring out how women work ( as all men do probably xD ).

Man, you got to get your stuff together. Think about some good things that happened in your life. Or some things that you still want to achieve. Suicide is giving up, giving in to your problems. You are better than that! You can do anything, if only you believe that. The good thing about emotions is that they are easily adjusted. Watch some youtube video's about being happy. It might sound cheesy, but you will notice that you do feel better and more motivated after watching it. Also, go out and talk to people. Call someone and ask if you can come over or if they want to chill at your place. Talk about your problems, but not to get sympathy, but to get through the problems and to figure out a way to make things better. Things will get better!

 

The challenge for me has not been to abstain from PMO but to get things done despite brain-fog and no energy, i wonder if this is harder to quit than alcohol? (i never drink, so i am not sure).

 

yesterday, I've been on the edge to pmo.

After it went smoothly for me so long I wasn't on my guard anymore.
When I watched tv at night I felt the temptation to switch to the erotic channel (porn without showing the area of the genitals and without fetishes). I've had decided that I mustn't watch any kind of porn or subs intentionally. However my addicted mind tried to distract me from that and told me just to "have a look". And even the thought of watching real porn on the internet crossed my mind together with some stupid arguments like "only one time, nobody will know!"
And it was similar to what DKR has experienced, that NoFap seemed kinda stupid and the virtual sex to good to be knocked off completely.
Fortunately the physical urge was not so strong and the thoughts were like whisper. Somehow I managed to get over it.

About once in a week I have real sex with my girl which is really relieving in this kind of situation. In a way I would like to be abstinent a while longer. But I guess that's not so important right now. I just have to focus on my goals and quit the habbit of pmo!

 

When the urges are too strong for you to handle or when your mind is not clear I recommend distractions.
But whenever you can I recommend you to observe your feelings and thoughts. I think this is better then to lock them up. They will become less frightening. We will be able to laugh at our clumsy urges.

When I have any thought about sex there is this energetic impulse in me. My pulse goes up.. and whatnots. I like it! It pushes me up I just mustn't continue the fantasy. Finally I understand how the convert sexual energy into creativeness!

Sometimes when I'm relaxed I have -let's say- romantic thoughts. I think about past encounters with women or about my gf or just imagine something pleasant. And I don't exclude sex (from the fantasy) but I try to avoid imagining it the way I would see it in porn. And aside from the pure lust I have more feelings this way than when I pmo'ed.

 

Day 27!

 

It is sunday evening again and I've been able to deal with another weekend. Sunday nights are probably the toughest...because I know once the week starts, I will be in a routine and probably able to deal with the situation --so sunday nights become the hardest mountain to climb. No social activities -- everyone is busy preparing for the week --so there is more time to sneak away.

Gotta stay strong -- if I do --then hopefully I will complete the July Challenge!!!

 

30 days for me as of 10 minutes ago!

 

looking good boys! I can't wait till this month is over as the heat wave is supposed to be over at the same time. 40degree heat and humidity seems to be res[responsible for my moods not nofap.
No urges, porn still seems a faded picture in the background and I feel apathy towards it.

None of my biz but why not smoke a J instead of drinking Kristian?

 

That will pass soon and the only thing that will seem pointless and silly is porn itself. Your mind just needs a tiny bit more time to absorb the two different states.

 

man I hope you are OK
do you think it's just the dopamine withdrawal? bc I can tell you I def went through that. I saw no point in life a few days, it was a nihilistic feeling and it was the dopamine in my case.

 

You need to go to the doctor or the hospital. Say what you wrote in that post. Don't think, just go. Trust me; I've been there.

 

Only a few more days till end of the month, let's get across that finish line!! #NoFapJuly

 

dopamine withdrawal and stop fapping withdrawal symptoms. can someone tell me about them both please?

 

I guess the brain adapts to the behaviour and in the long run you do not gain anything from dopamine raising activities(which is kind of sad). Masturbation should release more chemicals than just dopamine and the brain should get used to it after a while.

So if you do nofap for an long enough period your dopamine/etc level should average about the same as it was when fapping, but it should be more stable(this can be both good and bad).

I need to repeat that the withdrawal symptom it self isn't that bad, usually it is something else that is driving your addiction like not being social enough.

 

Congrats! July NoFap!!

 

I don't even know what to say I am so happy for you man. Congrats, let's kick this forever