I don’t know much about the different types of modes, I know they are labeled as easy mode, hard mode, monk mode & I don’t know which any of them are, if someone could please direct me? Next question is at the very bottom... ....in which I have been avoiding PM & have only been having Sex with O. This is with someone I like, prior to this relationship I have been struggling with PMO & If it wasn’t for my last relationship I wouldn’t have never been on nofap. Now that I understand nofap and would like to better myself, I’m so excited to learn more about it. I have never realized I was big on pmo but after my first relationship I learned a lot about myself. Now I am completely committed to breaking out of the pmo. ....What is the mode for Avoiding P and M but still engaging in Sex with O? Also what are the benefits and the healing aspect/time length of benefits or changes one may experience ?
Easy mode: no porn, but masturbation and orgasm are allowed Hard mode: no porn, no masturbation, but orgasm during sex is allowed Monk mode: no porn, no masturbation, no sex That would be Hard mode. Even though Easy mode is called Easy, it is not really easy to get a good streak there: it is a slippery slope, and you are likely to escalate to watching porn. Also, masturbation still means you condition yourself to your hand, so it may harm your future sex life. Hard mode makes more sense. If you are in a relationship and regularly get to orgasm, reaching 90 days should be relatively easy. But there is a problem there: at least in the beginning, you will likely be suffering from delayed ejaculation, and will have to fantasize about porn images in order to come during sex. It can become a bad habit, and it will then take a while before you can be fully present during sex. Monk mode fixes that. By the time you finally have sex after 90+ days you won't even think about porn. You will just be too horny, and the porn images will have faded. Also, some people are into semen retention and see it as an additional benefit. Also, you may experience wet dreams for the first time in a while, so it can be fun. The downside is that you are more likely to flatline if you do Monk mode and don't interact with women, so there's a higher chance you will feel dead down there by the time you have sex. So you will have to take it slowly, starting with hugs, cuddling and kisses etc.
