QUITTING CAMSITES - an in-depth guide

Last year (in lockdown) I ended up checking out one of these free camsites that were advertised on porn sites. Big mistake. I started by just spending a few dollars here and there but before long I was spending half my months pay with 1 girl in particular (she was beautiful, caring and had a degree in psychology).

$5000 dollars later I quit - it was much more difficult than quitting porn but I managed to do it. A few tips are below. I hope this helps someone.

The below is my guide for quitting:

1) Intention and motivation

a. Weaning off

2) Putting up barriers

3) Creating replacements

4) Managing the struggle


1) Intention and motivation

Its important to reflect on your current situation. Ask yourself how cams benefit your life (feelings of connection, relaxation, attention from women). Ask yourself how cams have negatively impacted your life, is negatively impacting your life and how it will negatively impact your life in the future.


realise you have a problem - I had to sit down and make an excel chart and figure out exactly how much money I had spent.

I then thought about what this money could have bought me, my friends/family or the good it could have done if donated to charity.

I also thought about the impact this was having on my love life - I was losing interest in real women for this fake relationship online and I thought about where I would be in 5 years if I continued.

I recommend writing at least 1 side of a4 on this and have it saved somewhere where you can go back to it when your motivation is low.


a) Weaning off (optional)

When a camgirl addiction is very strong you might reach a point where you only MO with camgirls and never with porn.

If this is the case, your sexual desire often immediately triggers the seeking of a camgirl.

It is usually recommended that we just stop PMO cold turkey instead of weaning, as each fap increases our propensity to fap again. So, if you can quit cold turkey then that is great.

However, It might help to have a week or two of nofap prep where you allow yourself to MO or even PMO so you can break down the horny = camgirl session pathway.

it’s much easier to quit porn than an interactive skype call which is completely tailored to your preferences.


2) Putting up barriers – this is based on the top few camsites

Close your accounts

The best way to do this is to set up a new email address and to ask support to transfer your camsite account to this email. Make the password on both the camsite account and the email something you have no chance of remembering and then throw away any records you have of this password, making the accounts unreachable. Make sure you don’t have options to reopen the account using mobile or second email verification.

The reason for this is because if you close and delete your account then you can actually just make a new account. If you do this the account exists so you can’t, make a new one but you also can’t access your account to use it.

Finance block – ensure you block payments to the site in your PayPal and banking apps.

Porn blockers

I wont go into this but install extensions, blockers on phones and block porn in your router to limit access.


3) Replacements

In the intention I asked you about the benefits camgirl interaction brings to your life. For me it increased my confidence as these were my first sexual interactions that were interactive instead of just being voyeuristic (porn). I also felt connection, being accepted and was able to interact and laugh with a beautiful woman. There are many benefits, and these are the things that will create urges within us.

So it’s very important to replace these with healthy alternatives.

This could be talking to women IRL (romantically and socially), nurturing deep friendships and relationships, getting therapy, meditating,


4) Struggle

don't play on a slippery slope - my previous attempts at quitting all failed because I let myself peek or I said what if she has messaged me let me check my emails from her and not look at anything else. this is an incredibly slippery slope and before I knew it I would have relapsed and spent $300 on a show.

Follow good nofap practice – accountability partners, seeing a therapist, investing a great deal of time learning from the forums, books and lectures how to combat this addiction.

 

Thanks Humble Sir, I hope it helps someone else as this addiction is far worse than regular porn. As it also makes you emotionally attached to the girl and gives you an illusion of realness that isn't quite there with porn.

I've read some other posts on this forum and all of the guys beg others never to even take a look. these websites are very insidious and use a lot of the same tactics as large social media companies to keep you in their system spending. I think the fact that if you close you account it doesnt get closed (you have to specifically ask for it to be "closed and permanently deleted" goes beyond even what social media companies do.