Everytime I see a hot girl my mind goes crazy.I feel like I have too much energy and my sexual taste are very wide( I mean that a lot of girls considered ''ugly'',I actually considered them hot ).I don't know if it's that im 19yo with 2 fucked sexual experience or because it's porn related.I try to not think about it but I can't avoid getting triggered.How can I master my sexual energy and be present to the moment?(I want to be able to master my sexuality in order to have sex with a girl that displays other feature besides breasts and ass) .Sorry for bad english im foreigner.
If by mastering your sexuality or sexual energy you mean having complete control over your libido, e.g. not feeling inner conflict because of urges, I don't think that is possible. That said, you can have some control and that amount of realistic control may be enough. Some examples on this site and others of channelling (not mastering) sexual energy include: exercise (e.g. gym, running), yoga, meditation, and the various forms of creativity (e.g. writing, painting, etc.). There are more if you look. This 'channelling' is also known as sexual transmutation or sublimation. As for being 'present to the moment' especially during urges, I recommend Tara Brach's R.A.I.N (Recognise. Accept. Investigate. Non-identification) technique: http://www.tarabrach.com/articles/RAIN-WorkingWithDifficulties.html You are right in saying you can't avoid getting triggered. Even if you went to the top of a mountain, your fantasies would be the triggers. Also, well done for being PMO free for 40 days.
Girls are hot. They will always be hot. You will always be aroused. You will always find this frustrating. Enjoy it. Seeing girls that you see in your day to day life as inconvenient triggers is ridiculous in my opinion. If a girl is really attractive to you either try talk to her or enjoy the sight of her and move on. This is my take. Sorry if its a bit blunt for you. I'm genuinely not trying to be an asshole right now!
ye,I think is a good thing to be aroused by girls but I think I'm too aroused due to fapping 7 years...
Perhaps, however, even if that is the reason why you are so aroused dont think of that as a 'bad' thing you do. I think people on this forum take arousal to real life girls waaaaaay too seriously. Maybe that's just me.
Yes, the sex organs are triggered by visual stimulus such as hot babes. That energy they genwrate if allowed to stagnate near the sex organs causes sexual frustration. You can move the energy up the spine and it feels great! If you can do it you will not feel frustrated but grateful. You MUST learn to maintain control through conscious steady and proper breathing. That keeps the body stable enough for the energy to rise naturally. Proper breathing tells the body "No, this is not actually a sexual encounter" which will allow the energy to move.
