Feeling isolated on the NOFAP journey

Man from my own experience I believe this loneliness is normal, but who really wants to improve is you and not your family, I recommend you to study a little about personal development!
Good luck !

 

Hi brother

I feel the same .
I also feel isolated even when im on nofapcom.
If you ever find out a solution on how to cope with isolation ,feel free to share it with me i would be glad to hear it .

Peace

Ps : about getting a streak going after many relapses ,i think that the main secret of nofap is to keep trying again and again till you find the right vein to accomplish a good long streak .May God be with you .

 

Hey there Tom,

you're definitely not alone altough that doesn't always help feeling alone, i know.
What really helps with that is reaching out, you already started by posting here.
You could also consider therapy and or self-help groups if these things are available for you.

Regarding keeping your streaks(which you are totally capable of when you already crushed over a month) it really helps to minimize screentime altogether and replacing it with healthy hobbies and installing All the blockers you can get. I've got myself Cold Turkey Blocker, Simple Website Blocker, Website Blocker, Leechblock(can be tricky to set up but you can effectively filter out certain keywords for any website) and Any Weblock, which are all free. It'll make life a whole lot easier because humans are not build to run on willpower alone all the time. It's a muscle and with proper training it gets bigger and more persistent but can only do so much. So build yourself an environment that supports you on your journey.

All the love, all the power!

 

I'm experiencing the same thing. I think that changes like these do indicate a change in the brain. After all, you wouldn't be experiencing this if you were still doing what you were doing.

I'm new to this, but I've read many stories indicating that this was the best way to take care of my issue. So any change in my mental state I take as a positive and just ride it out. Things will be better in the end. It just takes a little bit of re-arranging the furniture until everything comes together.

 

Group support is key i believe, especially face to face or at least over video conferencing. One of the things with addiction is it's often an isolated affair and one of the best things to combat addiction is recovering in a community where your demons cannot hide! trust me, porn addiction especially thrives on you being isolated and creating shame and embarrassment so the only way to take the power away from the addiction is to open up and share with like minded people. This has really helped me with drugs and porn.

Also what @E31 said about minimising screen time and opting for other activities which aren't related to your computer is really important, it's very easy to spend the whole day glued to your computer having not actually achieved anything of value so go out and make stuff happen and experience things.