Managing self-edging

It happens but you should focus on something else as soon as you become conscious of doing it

 

Spot, Stop and Swap.
Spot your trigger and identify it.
Stop your behavior immediately.
Swap your thoughts with other healthy ideas

 

Think of the general monotony of the "go to" scenes. I always hate when relapsing over the thoughts of finding fresh and new scenes, and then I end up only O'ing to the old crap over and over. Then I feel like crap - an old familiar go-to scene, too. What a drudge and poor excuse for relapse. It's all overated. No more!

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I do something similar when I’m having sex with my partner. I almost find after a while that the sex becomes uninteresting, and in order to stay hard and climax I have to recall porn scenes in my head. My mind jumps from scene to scene rapidly, as even thinking of them also becomes uninteresting. It’s a habit I’m trying to break, but the alternative is losing my erection, which would be embarrassing - even though I know there’s no real embarrassment, it’s just an internal thing. I’m hoping that over time, if I refrain from PM, and O outside of sex with my partner, that I won’t need to think about porn anymore.