Overwhelmed.

Hey!

I truly understand where you are coming from when you say you PMO whenever you are under stressed. It really comes down to the mentality. If you have a lot of things going on it all sits on your mind and you can't control yourself even if you know right from wrong.

Unfortunately I am not sure if I have any help to offer you during these stressful times. At best, you need to give it some time and your body will adjust to everything and the stress will ease over. If anything you need to relax a bit more. Try meditating. If that doesn't work either be sure you are never alone and spend time with others. Hanging out like that you can feel the positive energy going off of the friends and family you are with and it helps you forget about your problems.

The big reason we pmo to release stress is because we are used to that pump of dopamine. Naturally our body seeks out a bump and we associate PMO with it. You could always try something else whether it is excersizing or cooking just to get you the "exciting factor."

I am sorry if I can't help you much, but just give it some time and you will start to feel calm and relaxed. Don't add you relapsing as more stress. When you have the clear mind it will be easy AAll the best and I look forward to your progress

 

I'm reading a tony Robbins book atm called awaken the giant within. Firstly I highly recommend this to everyone on this site it's a fantastic book! He says in the book that just using a term like overwhelmed will make you feel it. Change this term and start thinking of yourself as challenged, in demand, busy or as having many oportunities. Just a simple change in the language you use will take the weight off your shoulders!

 

Hey man, I know exactly what you're going though. I have the same problem. I can't give you a perfect solution on how to rewire your body to react to stress in a different way (I think only full reboot can do that), but I know what helps me get through such situations.

What I do is try to remind myself, that the fact I need PMO to deal with stress is one of the best pieces of evidence that I'm addicted to porn. Think about it: if the urge was just created by built up sexual tension, then the fact that you're stressed would have no effect on it or its severity - normal people don't get horny when they're stressed. We get those urges because out brains have learned to deal with discomfort by seeking relief in dopamine released by porn consumption. Ever heard of people who seek solace and respite from problems in alcohol? We are in the same boat, but for us alcohol is replaced with PMO. People who are not addicted don't turn to alcohol and PMO when they have problems. When we have that types of urges it's just our addiction acting up.

So when I have urges that come with stress (I had one just today), I remind myself that this is precisely what I'm fighting against, and they get more manageable. In other words, I try to rationalize them, but in a good way that helps me to deal with them.

Sorry I couldn't give you a solution to your problem, but I hope that I was able to help in any small way.

 

Try 90 days without PMO. Then re-evaluate.