Beginning anew and questions.

First of all you must find out your triggers and avoid them. Next step is to make your mind to do this. Ask yourself questions. Why are you doing this? Etc.. Sometimes advertising about your challenge may not help. The decisions should come from your heart. Believe that you can.

 

Hi my friend,

One thing I have noticed is that, in life, until one REALLY wants something, it will never change. Just allow that to stick with you. If we want something bad enough, we will do everything within our blood and sweat to make it happen. I know for me, that if I am still using PMO, it's because I still want it. It's honestly as simple as that.

Want this bad enough, that you are willing to go through the torture of the withdrawals. Be willing to go through this thing will all of it's turmoil. But, you must embrace this and understand that it is part of the package, but the rewards and benefits are beyond comprehension.

If you want this bad enough, you'll do it, no matter how tough it is.

Sexual transmutation has helped me a ton, and so has meditation. There are many tools along the way to make this process somewhat easier. It's no walk in the park, that's for sure, but this is not a game. If you want this, you'll do it. Your soul has to want this badly. That is the only way to change.

 

Sometimes, it's just boredom, look at when you're doing it, is it when you're home alone and there's nothing to do. The healing process really comes from you, just try to find out when you're doing it. If you watch porn on you're phone, don't have your phone on you all the time. Also, talk to your friends or people about it, it's good to know people have your back and there's people to talk to when things get heated.

 

a metal, your first sentence could have been written by me. Very, Very, Very Similar in nature except for the fact that I have chose to not bring a "girlfriend" into my life for the past few years, etc..

Let me just say this, I finally got sick and tired of being sick and tired. I used to count days, etc.. but when you do that, you focus more on the number instead of the results. You have to find some way of associating pain, disgust, etc.. to the act of pmo. Until then, it is hard to continue to fight this powerful need, urge, dopaimine surge, happy drug, etc... Tomorrow when you wake up, tell yourself/ feel, "POWERFULLY" with "STRENGTH", that have already won. You have already defeated this demon that aggitates us.

That you are a different person today (the champion of the fight you fought all your life), and that you do not need this kind of torment anymore, LIKE THE OLD PERSON DID. For example, if you were in a boxing ring with an opponent, you wouldn't just go lack luster and lay down would you?? You would get stronger, more powerful, in your attempt to beat your opponent ie.. the Devil. Now, you won and since you won the fight, you will go victoriously into your future, as the champ of the fight, feeling proud, strong, enthusiastic, etc.. to see where this championship will lead you, in the future.

You also really have to associate pain, disgust, etc.. to the pmo or you will never change.

Here is just one association I used to finally be done with all this disgusting habit that really sickens me to not ever go back to anything this powerfully disgusting... Tell yourself, how would you feel if your family, your mom/ dad, neices/ nephews, sons/ daughters, friends, found out about what you do in secret?? How disappointed, sickened, etc.. would they be in their dad, uncle, cousin, etc.... to know that this is the way you truely are.

I say that from a position of love a metal because this was how I finally said, "enough is enough". My fortunate, legacy of love, caring, etc.. towards others would all come crashing down in an instant if they ever found out what I did in private, even if it were to "ease" the tension of the day. This coming from myself, someone who suffers from low self esteem, depression issues. I would hate to have more of that burden on my shoulders, knowing that their loved one wasn't as strong as "they" always thought/ believed I was. I hope this helps and I will keep all of us in my thoughts and prayers.

 

Just a few short thoughts (because my post seem length lol ) for today, pertaining to the situation we find ourselves in "RIGHT NOW, TODAY". "NOT TOMORROW".

Life brings about situations that cause us to have to chose different directions in life. About the who, what, and where we are or want to be. Heck, many of US (ME) have gotten here because
of some, internal pain. This PMO crap is not only a stress reliever, but the Dopamine that is created is also a Happy Drug.

Simple Fact is that we will always chose Pleasure over Pain, no matter how short lived the pleasure is, or the (EXTREMELY NEGATIVE) consequences it brings.
The choices for you and me, those that we have made, must have been right for US, at that time. No matter how bad things had seemed to have gotten or how bad they were perceived to be. They were right for US, at that time.
But if WE really think about it, honestly, WE have grown up strong, independent, and powerful, or we would NOT be here, alive and on this site, now.

We are Somebodys. Somebodys who are not only beautiful on the outside, but extremely beautiful and caring, on the inside. What a gift to the world YOU ALL ARE.

We have just chose to FIX OUR PAIN, in other than perfect ways. ..BUT, THEY WERE PERFECT FOR US, "AT THAT TIME". Thank goodness, NOT NOW, NOT AT THIS TIME.