I just can't keep it together

If u really hv like a deep addiction u can't quit just at once if u used to pmo like 10 times before u reduce to three times a day then next week one a day then Mondays and Thursday then once a week like a slow progress and u hv to strive even if u relapse and also download a pork blocker like bulldog blocker I hope this helps

 

No problem man

 

Be patient. It will take time. Try to learn from relapses. One day you will make it.

 

I am not sure your situation but these are things that helped me,

1. I made a firm decision to quit
2. I joined this forum
3. I wrote out on a piece of paper what I want in my life and exactly how I want to live. I read these statements daily.
4. I come on this forum often (about 2 times a day) and I read and post to others
5. I joined one of the groups in the "accountability partners" section.
6 I joined in one of the challenges under the "Events and Challenges" section.
7 I have specific members who inspire me that I follow their journals on a daily basis

 

Exactly, it takes a plan in order to succeed with this entirely. You have to put in the work if you want the results. Your plan is pretty solid and I grabbed a few notes from you as well. Thank you.

 

I tried for years to suppress my emotions until I watched the video below,

 

The following list are tools and resources to help fight this addiction:


- Go to weekly SA meetings and find a sponsor there. To find one near you, go to https://www.sa.org/meetings/

- Do an internet search for CSAT office in your area (Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist)

- One of the biggest, best, and most effective ways to quit this addiction is to find one or more accountability partner(s) if you don't already have one. Many are available here on NoFap.

- Look for help online; There are sexual addiction recovery books, workbooks, self-help books, Youtube videos and MANY other things to help.

- Start a journal about your recovery. On NoFap, somewhere else online, in a word document offline, or even with pen and paper.


- Obtain a copy of the book used by the members of SA meetings, which is commonly referred to as “the white book” which can be purchased here.

(https://www.sa.org/store/product_info.php?products_id=32)

- Put safeguards in place to help you stay sober. Think of your weaknesses and eliminate them.

- Do you take your phone (or any other device) into the bathroom with you and relapse because of it? Then make a rule to never take any electronic device into the bathroom with you, ever. NO EXCEPTIONS.

- Do you read erotic literature and relapse because of it? Make a rule to never read anything that could ever be found in that section of any bookstore ever.

- If you struggle with looking at internet porn or any other addictive material on the internet, get an internet filter to block that category type of website as well as any specific site you know you’re vulnerable to and give someone else the password to it. (Spouse, partner, AP, sponsor, etc.) Obviously, you should not have the password.

- And last but not least, bring any troubles, venting, accomplishments (and anything else you want) here to let us know so we can either help any way we can, give advice, or celebrate with you!​

I wish you the very best of luck, my friend!

 

Failure is often part of the process buddy. Many of us have failed multiple times and relapsed. It's ok, it does not mean it's hopeless. It just means you're human and having trouble breaking a pattern you've fallen into. We get it.

But every time you try to step away from porn, you learn something. You get a little more wisdom, a little more strength. You start over. You fail. You start over again. And at some point, the cycle seems easier to break, turning away from porn seems a little bit easier. And your motivation to get its negative influence out of your life gets a little bit stronger.

The important thing after a setback is 1) give yourself like an hour to feel bad about it, then stop, and 2) get back to taking some step towards recovery no matter how small it may feel. Spending time here reading and posting is a good start. Looking for other positive activities you can do is good. Building a plan for how you will deal with the urges when they arise is important. Keep at it friend, you haven't lost the battle yet.

 

Human brains need well-established routines. The problem is that bad routines can make an easy way right inside our heads if we let them do it. That's exactly how porn damages us - watching dirt becomes a habit and a part of your daily life. Then it gets really hard to ditch ponography.
Try and add healthy routines to your day - learn to play guitar, drums, whatever... take a walk to the nearest park, get in touch with friends and family. Your life will get much better, little by little.