How I quit porn in two weeks

I realized I had a porn problem when I wasn't able to get an erection with girls. (FYI, I have been a heavy porn users for the pass 15+ years. I started watching porn videos when I was 15 and now I am 53.) I tried quitting porn the recommended, way but just going cold turkey, but it didn't work for me because I was using porn to masturbate when I was stressed. It was my stress relief mechanism. And here is the problem with any kind of a stress relief. If you don't replace it with something else it will be very difficult to quit it which was my case with porn. So instead of try to quit porn directly I decided to take a different approach.

Whenever I got stressed out I would masturbate BUT I would force myself to imagine that I was having sex with real women I knew. I didn't stop looking at porn while I was doing this but I stopped masturbating to it. I noticed that after about a week porn didn't excite me as much anymore. I kept doing this and after about two weeks I didn't need to look at porn anymore. In fact, I could look at it and feel almost nothing. I had rewired my brain to associate sex and orgasm with real women.

Now, this may not work for everyone. Maybe I am just unique in my mental abilities or have more control over my brain. The funny thing is, just from pure habit, I still want to watch porn BUT when I do I don't feel anything and just stop. I think it will take some time for me to break the habit of going to porn when I am stressed since I used it for stress relief for so many years. I even tried masturbating to porn recently and it was difficult. It took a long time to cum. In contrast, I am able to cum when masturbating to fantasies of real women fairly quickly.

I think I need about a month to really know if I have gotten over porn but it definitely does not have the same effect that it did on me two weeks ago. Today, I really don't even feel any motivation to watch it and there is nothing stopping me from doing so (no porn blockers etc.). Instead of forcing myself to stop watching porn I just removed the benefit of doing so. I don't know if this will work for anyone else but you can give it a try and see if it does.

 

I don't know but to me the real power is not in controlling yourself but not having to control yourself at all. It's the difference of not keeping any alcohol in your home because you are afraid you will drink (if you are an alcoholic) vs having alcohol in your home but not being tempted to drink. I use to literally watch hours of porn every week. I use to masturbate to porn for hours until I was literally exhausted. Now, I don't do any of that. I don't know what your definition of progress is but to me this is a BIG deal. At the end of the day it does not matter what technique you use to get results as long as you are getting results.

One interesting thing I have learned is that we can continue to do something that is habitual even when it no longer gives us the reward it once did. It take times to break these habits. For example, I don't drink Coke but whenever I eat a hamburger I still want to drink Coke. There is a strong association in my mind between hamburgers and Coke. The stronger the association/habit the longer it will take for us to break it. Now I drink Coke when I eat a hamburger NOT because I actually enjoy Coke but because it's a habit. I could break this habit but since I don't eat hamburgers that often it's simply not worth the effort - so I drink the Coke.

There is nothing wrong with watching some porn now and then, it's when it becomes an addiction that begins affecting your life in a negative way that it becomes a problem - like any kind of addiction.

 

When I started I stopped watching porn completely and I was able to do that for about two weeks. My real problem was that I didn't have a way to handle stress without masturbating. In my mind, stress relief = masturbation and porn was the fastest way to do that. In the past, when I went on holidays I wouldn't look at porn at all. My porn habit was/is closely tied to work and stress. For me the key is finding another way to deal with stress. But let's see, I will stop watching porn again starting today and see how long I go without watching any. Thanks

 

What I have found to help a lot is to not be alone. Get out of your home, be around people as much as possible. This will distract you from even thinking about porn.

 

Nope, no new stress relief solution. I just try to stay out of my apartment as much as possible and to be around people. This seems to help me feel less stressed but I am also less productive. The paradox is, that productivity creates stress. The more productive I am the more stress I experience because I am just working a lot. I suppose this applies to all of us.

I have tried meditation before but it didn't seem to help me that much. Also, we experience more stress when we have more uncertainty in our lives.

 

As I said, this is just one approach. If it doesn't have any value to you then don't use it. Everyone is different, our brains are different, our personality, our experiences. Just because something works for someone else does not mean it will work for you. What matters is that you find something that works for you. The HOW does not matter, as long as you get the desired results.

My approach focuses on the cause of the problem not the symptoms. We are not watching porn for no reason. We are not masturbating incessantly for no reason. Why do we still have a drug problem when we have such serious laws against drug use? Because we haven't addressed the WHY. Why people are using drugs. As long as the reason people use drugs remain it doesn't matter what we do, people will continue to use drugs. It's the same with porn. And is a drug, it's just as addictive as you all know.

https://theconversation.com/porn-use-is-up-thanks-to-the-pandemic-134972

 

Death is not an uncertainty. In fact, it's one thing that you can be certain about: that you will die someday

 

Well, I may not have much motivation to watch porn but I still can't get it up for sex with a live girl.