150 days and still have no cravings

Been doing this challenge for a few years, can't remember for how many but what I can assure all the new members of nofap - this is not a placebo, this lifestyle indeed helps in improving yourself. Almost five months and the improvements in my lifestyle are very noticeable:

1. It makes you calm. Even when the room is on fire, you feel calm and you are sure that there is a solution for everything, all you need is just to take some action.
2. Natural confidence. Before longer streaks, the confidence I was showing was kinda faked and I am sure that everyone felt it, but now whenever talking with someone, the conversation flows a lot more natural, it has its kick. I can go to anyone and start a conversation which will be with lots of positivity and laughter (even when the conversation is not there, I feel that I tried to talk and I don't need to force that conversation, let it be so). Even at the work I finally feel like I have more of that "Command" to my colleagues and they are listening when I tell something and take it seriously.
3. Feeling a sense of boundaries - I started to "bite" back whenever something or someone is completely off my moral norms. For example, in the dormitory, the sink is full of food leftovers, you can not wash anything there and it still is disgusting - I had no problems and hesitation to tell those people (not in an angry manner), but telling that we all have to keep our responsibilities and keep the place clean but next time I won't come this nice. Although I am still pretty tolerant towards something I do not like, I understand that nothing will ever be 100% to my liking, parents complaining about politics (even If I disagree), while they do not directly ask me and criticize my opinion without valid facts (I let it be, sometimes we need someone just to let the steam off, but if there is attacking without facts then prepare for calm and precise answers sharp as a knife which will hurt like hell).
4. Emotions are more genuine. Previously I felt pretty neutral for funny videos or memes, it was super rare for me to find something funny, often I faked my laugh but recently I started to feel like naturally laughing even I feel when my jokes will be funny to people (previously I just joked just to joke), I feel a lot more connection to my pet, to my family members and friendships feel stronger.
   
5. I feel like giving back to people. There is less of that "me" in life, I start to feel a lot more that I do not want to give people what I do not like to receive myself, always saying thank you and have a pleasant evening/day almost everywhere (especially in the shops where it is visible when the shopkeeper is tired and a bit moody, it is an amazing feeling when you tell it to them and they genuinely start to smile a bit and tell it back). Even when food is burnt in the cafe or the salt is not gritted on the roads, you just think of it like - "oh, maybe there is understaffing and lot's of orders, it can happen at least they tried" or with the salt "I know they do not have a lot of salt gritters and they are almost working 24/7, they just didn't make it in time, but a bit later it will be okay - I will drive slowly".
   
6. Feeling a lot manlier. I feel a lot more that I want to do more exercise, work with my hands on the car, or build something.
7. More motivation to improve me. Starting from this week trying not to only abstain from PMO but also from Sugar, coffee, potatoes, flour-based products like white bread, cookies, waffles and drink min 2L of water and also to exercise every morning, so far not going to lie - cravings for sugar ar even stronger than for porn but I am taking it like a champ.

So far these are the main benefits I feel which help me to improve.
Many would maybe ask - but how with the women? Currently, I do not feel the drive to chase them, a year ago I broke up with my gf and after that, I do not feel like dating (I have moved on for sure, but I understood that I want to live for myself now, enjoy life - had some kissing in this period but nothing further). All I want now is a stupidly fast car and get a bit more vacations and go travel a bit and do it more frequently.
How do I achieve everything without cravings?
Simple, studies and full-time work will keep you exhausted to even think about anything, although after my last relapse I noticed how weak, unconfident, and moody I was, I felt and tried that no woman even wanted to talk with me at the party, it was awkward. Anyways, now complete opposite, feeling a lot more stoic, I could score a date if I'd wish it but now it is not my goal.

If you have any questions feel free to ask
Also - if someone is also abstaining sugar and coffee, please, tell me how it went/goes, how long it took till you started to notice results and what were those results.

 

There are two main things - keep yourself busy and find (think of) some most painful/miserable moment in your life. Everyone has a reason here why we started but it is important to remind ourselves of it, it is the key element - this is what keeps me at bay from relapsing and does it super well ( I just remind myself of my most miserable moments I have caused by PMO and I had all the possibilities to avoid it and be a better version of myself but I chose to be miserable)

Good luck achieving the best version of yourself - you will succeed

 

Thank you!

 

To solve this issue there has to be a physical and psychological approach. By physical it is keeping yourself busy - boredom is the main enemy (but I'd say that this is secondary importance compared to the psychological). The psychological level approach is much more difficult and I am no stranger to it myself but it is the main weapon for fighting it. As many people say - just do not do it...partially yes, but there has to be a deep, painful reason why you started this journey, think of that reason/s and highlight them whenever you feel like peeking, but those reasons have to be very serious and important to you (this is also my main approach), I just think of how miserable I was in public whenever I relapsed and all that could be averted by just not doing one simple thing - that one thing can help increase the life quality so drastically but there we are, choosing temporary pleasure over permanent pleasure. This won't come easily in the beginning but I was thinking about it so often that I just somehow reprogrammed myself that my every relapse was 30+ days minimal, but now I have different views on life, what I want and I do not want to lose it, and to lose myself in the process. Life is too beautiful to make it sufferable.

Whenever feeling like peeking, just switch off the phone or close the tab, it is not worth it.

Good luck, keep strong, you are doing super great and you will succeed for sure - I believe in you!

 

Happy to read this review - inspires to keep fighting, especially against coffee as for it I am a serious addict. For everything except coffee( as an ex heavy weight lifter ) - it does not do anything good to your body ( and hey, to everyone reading this, just by cutting sugar and junk, lots of water then in a few weeks there will be a noticeable difference in your weight and how you feel physically) but coffee, damn, there were 5-7 cups a day and it ruined my REM cycle and the skin is not thanking me and I could not wake up or function properly. Your described results are just the thing I need right now in my life. I am saying a huge Thank you for sharing your story.

Good luck in your adventure and keep strong!

 

ha ha
I would gladly join up