Relapse can be used to grow.

That actually makes a lot of sense. If I knew about this practice It could have saved me lots of months of systematic relapses.

 

I disagree! Holding these kind of thoughts in your mind will not make you heal

Think about it... A relapse IS a failure. Relapsing means you weren't strong and determined enough to follow your ultimate goal. With your technique, you are bringing failures on purpose. We're all capable of going cold turkey and never consume PMO again. We just need to start believing it.

Your intention is amazing because you are trying to destroy the guilt that is felt when people relapse. You're trying to make people heal, which is awesome. I just think that it is not the right way if you want people to truly heal.

 

Its like quitting smoking but letting yourself smoke every 5 days, you're fueling your addiction and allowing it to continue. Instead you need to learn from each relapse and what allowed it to happen (its almost always your thoughts) and make a plan to prevent it from happening next time.

 

I have to agree that something needs to be done about the chaser effect.

Not too sure about "tactical relapse" ... Knowing myself, I'd could tactically relapse for decades probably.

 

Unless you mean like just mb with no p ... I think there's definitely an argument for that.

What i am personally trying to avoid is these long, frequent and innapropriate sessions of absorption and edging with porn (sometimes combined with substance abuse).

Mb by itself is laughably insignificant as it takes very little time out of my day and doesn't leave me with residual shame and rumination.

That said I also feel that there may be psychospiritual benefits from full abstinence from sex not in a committed relationship.

 

massive desire induced sessions are what I need to cut out for my self improvement

 

What you are saying is always get past 5 days?

 

and relapse only once if it has happened and you cant do anything about it

 

That's a good one. . That will build power. If you are getting caught on the 2 to 3 day mark a lot.

 

Chaser effect is always going to be there because its natural and we all get it. In fact I'd consider training yourself to beat the chaser effect is only going to be harder than abstaining completely because when you allow yourself to PMO after a long streak it means nothing to give in again an hour or so later because you have nothing to lose.

I admire you wanting to help people who are having constant relapses but they need to search for the root of whats causing them to relapse rather than fighting the addiction with what they're addicted to.