How can I make it more difficult to relapse?

So I had a thought. Relapse for the most part is part of recovery. i've been told this many times, and I believe this to be so. Thus i guess you could say it is inevitable in the beginning right? So...what can we do to make it difficult to do so?

 

i agree

 

It's not inevitable. By saying it's inevitable you're making the first step to relapse. And now asking us you do this because you know you will relapse. Then when we tell you some tips you will try them but say yeah let's just reset and do it one more time properly

By saying it's inevitable you already lost the battle. But not the war, yet.

I've been through all of this. The only thing which is foolproof and even urgeless is to simply start thinking about something else which matters to you (in my case it's God and religion) as soon as you have some fantasies or stupid thoughts.

If you read my threads you'll see how much of a mindfuck I was and still am. Now I'm like 18 days I guess into NoFap, it's not much, but it's very much for me as my record is just like 30 days.

The thing is you really really need to know what truly matters to you. Not like "yeah, I'm gonna think about my parents" or "about my dog".

And this, my friend, is how to make a relapse more difficult. Ask me any questions.

You don't need PMO, heck, you don't even need sex to be happy. You've been like that for your whole childhood and didn't miss it.

 

You have a good point my friend. The point i was trying to make was that IF you do relapse, Lord forbid, the war is not over as you mentioned. I was NOT making the first step to be "oh just go ahead and relapse." No, no, no. I was implying that in the beginning of doing nofap, there is a good chance you WILL relapse, and in that event, asking what one could do to make it harder or delay it. You bring up an excellent idea to think about what matters to you. Sometimes, for some people, it takes time to figure that out because in that moment of the urge, any rhyme or reason is vacant and there may be only the habit they can think about.

 

Yes. But when people are so horny that they can't think straight, it's because they've (subconsciously?) entertained some sexual thoughts beforehand. If they hadn't done this, they wouldn't have had any urges which keeps them from thinking straight and clearly.

You shouldn't fight the thoughts if they pop up, you simply just have to replace it with something better. I'm like 18 days right now into NoFap and haven't had any of these huge mind fogging urges

 

That's awesome that you are 18 days in my man! good for you. And for you it may have been as simple as replacing your thoughts, which is cool that you've got that mastered. Guys like me though...eh, let's just say if it were that simple I would be on day 200 or so right now and not back on day 5. Because i have yet to master that. and i would think there is a learning curve to things like that. some may find it easy, some may find it the hardest thing to do.

 

Thanks. But it was not easy for me. Just take a look at my threads (trigger warning) and see for yourself, I was and still am a complete mess.

I just found that if I start taking my religion more seriously, concentrating on God, Jesus and the life of the Saints, it will get easier for me. Especially meditating on hell (I'm catholic)

So of course for atheists this may sound silly, but for me, it helps. I'm not even trying to suppress anything, I just found something to be more important in my life

And the urges I got are not like sexual urges, but thoughts like "Just fuck religion and become a hedonist". These are the temptations I'm having.

In general, my streak definitely helped me to change the view I have on humans. I feel more empathetic, and all my fetishes are starting to become a "whole body and soul fetish" which is basically equivalent to finding a woman attractive.

 

Awesome man. As for me. I am a Christian. Prayer helps. It is great that you are focused on God.

 

thanks bro, good luck to you too!