Is increased duration a benefit of nofap?

Maybe, maybe not, but you should definitely stop watching porn. It's probably affecting your love life. You can stop masturbating too, and see if you like being without it!

 

So, I'm not a man, nor am I a biologist, so keep that in mind. But just based on what I have observed or what seems to be true, I would think that at least for a while, you might actually not last as long during sex when you're abstaining from PMO. A lot of people who PMO regularly have a hard time getting enough stimulation with a partner, which probably makes them take quite a bit longer to reach orgasm. If you're abstaining from PMO, you're probably going to be more sensitive and might reach orgasm quicker.

In the long term, though, once you've abstained for a long time and your body is reacclimated, I'm not sure. I will say, I, too, can go for hours on my own and not with a partner, because I'm in full control. Which might be part of what you're experiencing. Not to get too graphic, but I'm sure when you're on your own, you have more control over things like speed, pressure, pausing and starting again, etc. All of those things could make you last longer. Not to mention the fact that you're focused on other things as well, usually searching for porn or whatever else you're doing, whereas sex with a partner is a very focused activity.

 

Well I'm not sure about the lasting longer part, but in many ways it will certainly be better.

It's tough though, because in some ways it might never be as good as your addict brain wants it to be. I mean, chocolate cake is delicious, but it's no heroine. Sex with your wife is amazing and beautiful and holy, but it's not the same as PMO. In most ways, it is much better, but in some ways, real life can't compare to the addictive high of this crap we see on screens.

I'm sorry if that is unhelpful to say. I don't mean to be discouraging. But I think it's important to temper our expectations, so we don't set ourselves up for failure later if we are disappointed. Your life, in general, will be soooo much better without PMO in it. I can assure you that. But sometimes it might still feel like PMO is better than the alternative, and that's just something we need to sacrifice and let go of. Just as a drug addict can't honestly tell themselves that they didn't feel good when they were high, we can't honestly say there is no appeal to PMO. We just have to accept that with the appeal comes a lot of destruction, and we must decide which one is worth more to us.

 

My husband is the opposite, when he’s pmo’ing he lasts forever in bed. When he’s clean he can only last 5-10 minutes? At most( idk I don’t time it lol). I’ll take 5 minutes over 30 any day and every day. Hell, I’ll take 10 seconds and him clean with me than 30 minutes but he’s been using. When he first started recovery he had pe for about a month but it leveled out to what I’d consider more normal 5-10 minutes.

 

It can go either way. But I wouldn't worry about duration, quality of the intimacy is more important. 5 minutes of quality sex is better than an hour of ok sex.