NoFap - It is the mindset!

Hello. Now since I broke up with my last relationship in december of 2021, I decided to go deep with self improvement. I want to share some thoughts of this lifestyle and how it changed my life and behaviour. I will give you some advices and my personal opinions about this lifestyle. I am still learning and I don't have all the answers. Only you will find the truth in life and decide what's the best for you.

I began nofap journey at january 2020 when I also got into new relationship. I shouldn't get in that relationship because my mind and body began to heal. But we both learn a lot from that relationship. It was quite deep, emotional and we talked through everything. It took me frikking 3 to 4 months to get over my ex. I am very quite emotional guy after all. My first thing was to deal with my emotions, even with deeper emotions. I meditated quite a lot, listened to very sensitive songs and just let my emotions be there and come out. I did not judge them, I just let them be. I could just embrace them and put my hand on my heart, everythings gonna be fine! As a man if you are fine with yourself, and if you are capable to show your emotions from the heart, women will sense this and you will be immediately valued higher. Don't keep your emotions inside. Listen to sensitive songs, show your emotions, punch your fist in the wall while you cry. Let your inner beast heal your past. Feel it.

During last months I did casual things. I never experienced them before so it was quite a nice to see I have potential to do that and be with women. I was using online dating a lot. But, I realized it was taking too much time from my life and it no longer give me any satisfaction. You will feel empty inside after doing it for some time. Yes, it is increasing dopamine there to have fun and experiencing new things, also making new memories, BUT, I am no longer doing that. I value myself. Everytime I am practicing SR, my motivation is just over the top to build myself and my own life to be better in future. I would trade all this for the right partner in future. Shortly, don't do casual. It will give you nothing but emptiness. Focus on yourself, focus on what's important. Be better you in future.

Crush your self limited beliefs. Longer you go with this, you will notice that nobody will stop you. My longest streak was 6 weeks. Cold showers, beast workouts, getting my 9 - 5 job work done quickly so I can deal with my own stuff during workdays. I give less damn about things. I will do what I feel is right from my heart.

I feel like I am losing friends. Their instant gratification lifestyle is no longer working for me. From time to time I still see them, but we don't have much common anymore. I have few friends who are working with themself like me, but this is quite lonely journey. But again, it's the mindset. You will find the right people to be with you and eventually great woman will be there for you.

Think everything as a journey. You will do self improvement as a journey. Find your purpose, whatever it is. I love to play guitar. I play guitar every day like a beast. I am twitching my journey. I am posting on social media. I try to build a community around my guitar. It's very very difficult, but I just keep going. I don't mind if I don't have any followers. I am doing it for myself. So remember, whatever you do, don't expect results. Just do what you like and love, let the rest happen itself. Procrastinating is a real deal and you need to crush through it. Just do, don't overthink. I am wasting minutes, even hour(s) in a day for procrastinating

There ain't weekends. There are just days, weeks and years you are living. Everyday is the same, you life with your purpose. Everyday is a golden day and new opportunity to make changes in your life. Build good habits, leave bad habits. I still have many had habits to deal with like not getting up from bed, like just lying around thinking about life and stuff and then picking up a phone to see if I have any messages. No, don't do this. Begin your day slowly, read a book, meditate, cold shower, eat a breakfast. Try to build yourself habits that will increase your general happiness.

Cut instant gratification. I am still dealing with caffeine and it's taking control of me.

Eat healthy. Only buy fresh indegrients from grocery store.

Don't bash yourself.

I am soon to be 31 years old. It's never too late to begin to build your life.

Porn (addiction) may be the worst of all to ruin your life that is freely available for everyone. It is literally destroying your masculinity and productivity.

Start today!