I just came to the conclusion that I have to accept that the urges I have after 2-3 weeks of not fapping is just like Pon Farr. It's a physical necessity for me, I hate to do it (just like I hate to wipe my ass after shitting), but once in a while I need to do it, at least after 2-3 weeks if "my blood is boiling from my mating desire". I will try to separate this and my regular life. Just like Spock separated Pon Farr and his regular life. My Pon Farr does not define me, it is the cross I need to bear, a physical necessity I need to do like pooping. This does not mean to PMO every day 3 times, but rather once in 2-3 weeks if Pon Farr comes. Anyway, thanks for all the help, sorry to disappoint some of you maybe. I will not delete my profile because I may come back, but as for now, I simply can't stop PMOing completely without going crazy, the best I can do right now is to moderate its use and treat it as Pon Farr (so I won't be ashamed of myself being a masturbating monkey). Of course the ideal would be to stop PMOing altogether, but obviously chemical castration is out of question. I hope that with time, the more I will cultivate intellectual pleasures (just like Sheldon Cooper), the more I will feel satisfaction, and the more time can pass between my Pon Farrs.
Give it time. A lot of us (including me) left NoFap for a while (sometimes for two years) and just lived life. We got some hard knocks, some new life lessons and insights, and after all that we felt more ready to quit again. Just because you’re in a rough spot now doesn’t mean you’ll always be.
We have to define success for ourselves. For some people here that means never breaking a streak, ever. But if you've gone from PMO three times a day to only doing it once every two or three weeks, wow that's incredible growth man. You could even call it success if you wanted. Maybe you could focus on taking porn out of those occasional sessions, so they are just normal M. Just my opinion.
It's not that I'm in a rough spot. I've been trying to do NoFap since I was 16. I'm 24 right now, so it's been trial and error for 8 years right now. I just have to accept that my sex drive is higher or something, and the best I can do is to treat it as Pon Farr which I have to indulge in once every 2-3 weeks in order not to go crazy. As I said, maybe I will be able to cultivate intellectual pleasures so much that such kind of a Pon Farr will be needed only once a month, or once every two months even. I don't treat and will never accept my sexual urges and preferences as part of my identity. I will treat it as vomiting, or pooping, something which is nasty but you gotta do sometimes and is a result of you having a physical body. I mean, the only way which I could see for myself to eradicate all sexual desires is the so called 31 parts body meditation which Buddhist monks use. Maybe I will do this once I feel ready, although I really don't want to look at pictures with the body opened up looking at all the organs, blood and muscles just to meditate on that fact that the people I'm fapping to are just these kind of meat sacks (but I'm too just such a meat sack...)
If my Pon Farr will come, and I would have to relapse after 2-3 weeks, it must be with all the porn available in order to avoid a chaser effect. Sometimes, when I relapse after a streak, I am literally able to orgasm/ejaculate 3 times within one hour. So maybe I do suffer from hyper sexuality after all?
Hmmm.... not sure about that. If it's a physical necessity to you, do it mindfully and enjoy it. And tackle your porn use. It's porn that's unnatural, not orgasms or ejacilation or sex, or even masturbation. You do what's right for you, though. Good luck.
More like porn farr. Jerking off every 2 weeks is honestly pretty good, at least in comparison to many here (including me most of the time) who can't go 2 days without it even after trying for a long time.
I felt like that for a long time. But feelings—especially about the future—aren't the same as facts. Some of the "I must PMO soon" is a natural urge, but probably most of it is just the addiction lying to you. In both cases, (aside from wet dreams, which usually aren't optional) it's a complete lie. In fact, you do not need to orgasim even one more time in your life, much less do you need to PMO. That doesn't mean I expect you to just quit forever starting today. But, rather, I pray that you won't give up, and continue to raise the bar for yourself: make 1 month the new 2-3 weeks (I used to think 1 month was impossible outside basic training), then eventually make 60 days the new 1 month, then 90 days, until at some point, maybe years from now, you reach escape velocity. 2-3 weeks may be the current bar you're stuck at, but exercise gradually grows your strength and resolve beyond your present limit. This will be good for you.
This seems in line with my comment here -- the OP is basically figuring out what the appropriate "level" of fap is relevant to their current situation/goals/etc circumstances........
