Hey guys, I have read somewhere that the best way to get rid of an addiction is to tell your ‘secret’ to someone. So I hope someone can relate to my story and advise me! I’ve been with my girlfriend for 5 years now. The first 3 years have been great, especially our sex life. Then, things start changing. We both got out of shape, started having way less sex, and now we barely do it, even though we sleep on the same bed. In the past two years, I also started watching way more porn and masturbating. I’m kind of obsessed with girls with big breasts, and I can feel I have developed an addiction as I always search for a nicer girl with bigger breasts. I can spend more than an hour watching videos multiple times a week. I mainly watch girls stripping and cam girls, not actual porn. Funny enough, my girlfriend has big breast, and sometimes I even masturbate watching her pics/videos that she sent me. Watching porn and masturbating hasn't only affected my sex life, but it also keeps me awake late at night and definitely messes up my routine. I feel like this bad habit is the only factor that doesn’t allow me to have a good, healthy balanced life. I’ve been trying to stop watching porn and masturbating for the past 12 months. However, I don’t recall resisting more than 7 days in a row. A few times, I felt I was on the right path. However, after seeing a hot girl's picture on Facebook or even touching /having sex with my girl, I would go back to watching porn and masturbating. Did anyone have a similar experience? Ultimately, I can’t even understand if porn makes me less sexually attracted to my girlfriend or if I prefer porn over her.
I was actually in the same situation as you, except it was my wife. I found her sexually attractive, but because I was watching porn all the time, our sex life dwindled. It was every day at first and then less and less. By the time the divorce came, we hadn't had sex in 2-3 weeks. If I could go back, I would've absolutely tried harder to quit porn, because I could've had a more fulfilling sex life. But hindsight is 20/20 and the best thing I can do now is work on myself and if I ever get into another relationship, then I need to try as hard as I can to have the best sex life possible. The thing is, your porn use more than likely escalated because of less sex and feeling unfulfilled in your life, but I have a suspicion based on the information here is that your girlfriend found out you were using and that made her not want to have as much sex, which made you feel unwanted, which made you turn to porn and then the cycle begins again. Now I won't lie here: Of course you're going to prefer porn over a woman you've been in a relationship with for years. Porn has novelty which won't be replaced by one woman. At the end of the day though: it's all a lie. You think you want these women but if you were in an actual relationship with these women, you would still desire porn and different women. Honestly, you should have a calm, rational discussion with her about all this. It may get heated, but mention that you still love her (You do love her right?) and want to change this terrible habit so you can have a better relationship. Or you can just be a Coomer S!mp with your camgirls who will never love you and be miserable but I think you wanna go with choice A here.
My sex life with my wife has definitely been affected by my use of porn and chat rooms and the accompanying fantasizing and masturbation. Compared with these activities, sex with her has seemed lame and boring. I admit, I get much harder chatting and masturbating than with her. I feel terribly guilty about this and want to fix this. It has gotten to the point that I have lost my erection with her after a few minutes, although I say hard edging for hours. This is a huge problem caused by my addiction to being hard and masturbating.
your gf isnt uncomely, prnography is just real-life CGI;due to its use of lights,camera,angles, and whole lots of other stuff. Its an artificially-enhanced experience so real-life humans would of course pale in comparision. it isnt a personal problem -you- have(with her). It's a rather "its intended to be that way" situation.
Porn messes with the very definition of what appears as desirable. Dont let it do that to you. If you feel like thats happening to you, it is.
Well I have issues already. The past few times my wife and I have attempted sex, I have started hard, but after maybe 5 minutes went soft.
Well I have had issues. The last few times my wife and I attempted to have sex, I started hard, but went soft after maybe 5 minutes.
