Dating a mom

Oh man, this one is tough. I know it seems like literally the only women available out there these days are single moms, but I need to advise you that that is NOT the way to go. If she's a good mom, you will always come 2nd to her kid(s) and if she's a bad mom, you're stuck raising another man's kids.

I saw a great quote a few days ago: "single moms aren't looking for love, they're looking for help."

You're 24, there is absolutely no reason to settle. Also, 32 days streak is a good start but there's a reason 90 days is the minimum recommended so even if she was more qualified I would recommend pumping the brakes a bit. If you're leveling up and a true high value man, you deserve someone without baggage and should hold out. Don't fall into the rescuer trap.

 

dude leave her asap. don’t try to save her. don’t raise another man’s child.

she was telling you all about her struggles meaning she has a lot of baggage that you’d have to deal with. But i mean i know guys these days don’t have too many options so it may be hard to be willing to leave

but if you are willing then it means you value yourself and think of yourself as a high value man

single mothers should be avoided

 

This!

 

You see, Chad and Tyrone got a piece of her. now she is looking for Eugene to pay the bills

 

You're barking up the wrong mfkn tree, forget about it.

After you're committed and you tell her that you love her, are you ready to help pay for her medical bills? Think of all the bad things that can happen... to anyone... death of a child, divorce, bankruptcy, abuse, addiction, freak accidents, hospitalization, crime, mental health issues, depression, etc. At least one of those befalls any average human being walking on the earth. Being in a committed relationships is not for the faint of heart and you will find yourself trapped in a shitty situation. Speaking from experience. Most likely this person is trying to fill a void and you're spry. Fuck that.

Edit* Congrats on your journey though. But save your confidence and use it on someone else

 

exactly. saving this for later as a reminder for myself. Thank you for writing this. i especially liked how you said a committed relationship isn’t for the faint of heart

 

Dating single moms is like coming last to the party and cleaning up the mess.

 

The very first roman emperor married a woman just like that when she was already pregnant no less and later made her son his successor, if this guy was not high value then what of us? Raising someone's else kid either through adoption or previous marriage is not for everyone, i'd say 24 is probably too young to have a serious relationship but they did it in the old days and did not have the social issues people today have like high cheating, divorce, low fertility rate ect. Since OP gave up on her so easily though she probably wasn't worth it.

 

I will say, however, I know a couple people -- people who are close to me -- who are raising other people's kids. The biological parents apparently are either completely distant or otherwise irresponsible. The adoptive/step parents are good people with a crazy amount of discipline and heart. I have mad respect for people who come into a shitty situation and create order, but these people, in my mind, are like Jocko or Mother Teresa or something like that.

 

Some really good logic here.

 

It's not good..

 

That's like saying men aren't looking for love, they're looking for sex. It might be true of some but not all.

 

Haha very funny!