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What you gain from pornography

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Porn Is Dicey, Jan 12, 2023.

  1. Porn Is Dicey

    Porn Is Dicey Fapstronaut

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    Pornography addiction is irrational and causes no benefits to flow to your life whatsoever.

    WHAT YOU GAIN FROM PORNOGRAPHY
    Pornography induces sensitised pathways in your brain that make you crave the substance and heightens your response to the thought of getting it.

    The desire to watch pornography is often way stronger and more intense than the actual experience of watching pornography.

    Furthermore, pornography will desensitise you to natural rewards and the small things. I.e, the rest of life.

    The 'gains' from pornography are entirely as a result of sensitised pathways making you crave the substance in a heightened way, as well as desensitisation in the other areas of your life reducing your life to a numb greyness while pornography is the only thing that sparkles in some way. Cut out the porn, cut out the problem.

    WHAT YOU LOSE FROM PORNOGRAHY
    Where to begin.
    Altered stress response
    You will be more stressed out about life in general. Your amygdala will be hyper responsive as it craves porn just like a nicotine addict craves a cigarette for that stimulating rush.
    Desensitised life
    You will enjoy everything else less, compared to your pornography addiction. Life will become grey, music sounds worse.
    PIED
    You will get Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction, which causes your dick to stop working properly in real sexual environments.
    Less time
    You will spend hours and hours cumulatively looking at porn when you could be doing something else.
    Less energy
    You will objectively have less energy to dedicate to your pursuits. Constant PMO drains your body as it tries to replenish itself.
    Less drive and motivation
    You will think a lot less about the big picture in your life. You won't think about plans and pursuits, you will sleep walk into bad decisions (malfunctioning prefrontal cortex), you will spend ages thinking about things that don't matter.
    Worse socialisation
    You will become a shell of the self you could be free from pornography. You will either become kind of shy, kind of awkward or feel every conversation requires 10x as much effort as it would do otherwise. You're forcing your broken dopamine system to come up for responses in general. It's tired.
    Focus on sex and porn to the exclusion of other things
    You may turn off women by your pushiness to have sex. Porn trains your brain to objectify women. You will not seem nearly as attractive to women as you would without porn.
    Worse memory
    A functioning healthy dopamine system is very important in the formation of memories. If you find yourself constantly forgetting things as you study and learn, or just life memories in general, this could well be the cause.
    Dulled emotions
    You will feel a tenth of the emotion toward your partner that you would feel if you are free from PMO. You will feel emptiness when you hold your children. The spark you might see in a potential new partner does not exist. You won't even get tingles down your spine from a good film or book.
    Worse sleep
    Anyone who has quit porn will attest to finding it much easier to fall asleep in the long term, and having more vivid dreams. Vice versa you are screwing your sleep over as long as you continue to be a PMO addict, and because sleep is so vital you are likely reducing your lifespan. Whether you're even living a quality life to enjoy that reduced lifespan is another question.
    No more life regrets when it comes to thinking about PMO
    Be honest, you will *never* accept porn addiction in your life on some level. You know it's wrong, you dislike it after every session, you constantly wish you could quit. You reminisce over the years about all the time you have spent being a pornography addict and all the wasted opportunities. The sleepwalking into bad decisions, the cringe toward women you've caused, the deep-seated emotional pain that comes from losing your self-confidence to this addiction.

    WHAT YOU GAIN FROM PORNOGRAPHY, PART 2
    As you are reading this, honestly ask yourself, sincerely what benefits pornography actually provides in your life.

    The percieved benefits are effectively a myth. You have been using porn for so long you have forgotten what it is like to be effectively sober for a long period of time. You are a fish in a stale tank of water. You are living in North Korea with no idea of what the outside is like, it has been so long.

    All pornography does is perpetuate a deeply damaging neurological addiction that robs you of countless genuine pleasures in life in exchange for *nothing*. You had to work to become an addict, you didn't get here from day 1. People who are not addicted feel no worse for not looking at porn. Pornography addiction is the same as any addictive drug that gradually erodes your life.

    BE RATIONAL
    You will never accept PMO

    You will always want to quit

    The other side is so much greener and beautiful, even if you have forgotten this truth

    You must end the suffering or the suffering will end you

    Pick your pain, either the 'pain' of quitting porn or the pain of continuing to use it. Either way you will recieve pain, just one is far more potent

    PMO is a pointless nothingness of an activity that completely detracts from your life on every single point with zero benefits to you whatsoever, just like any addictive drug

    You have been living drunk for so long you have forgotten what it is like to be sober

    CLOSING
    They say time is priceless. It's the only thing you can't buy more of. It's extremely valuable. Don't allow the thief of porn to continue to steal the equivalent of millions from you every day, month, year.

    Get your headphones out, put the funkiest music on that makes you happy and just go crazy fantasising about how much better your life will be without porn. This is far easier for people who have already had extended streaks of a month and beyond, because they have tasted this success.

    And remember, you have nothing to lose and only miraculous gains to make.
     
  2. syefox

    syefox Fapstronaut

    will definitely read this thread on a periodical manner, thanks for taking the time to write this it was really insightful
     
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  3. Missycatzoey

    Missycatzoey Fapstronaut

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    This was really to the point. Thank you!
     
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  4. last chance

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  5. This Is A New Day

    This Is A New Day Fapstronaut

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    excellent. needed to read this today, thanks
     
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  6. Chili Dog

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    Thank you for sharing. That was quite long, but very important and inspirational. We can't go back in time (as far as I know),but we sure can go with the present and make a much better future for ourselves and hopefully others like us as well as everyday people that we interact with in our lives.
     
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  7. ForgottenRealms999

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    Great post! I’m having success in reducing porn use, though my level of fantasizing and remembering past sexual encounters has increased, along with masturbation and orgasm. I kind of feel like this is an improvement over full PMO, although it also feels a little like cheating. I suppose it depends on my goals… whether to go for a full reboot or not. I do know that I need better outlets for stress and I want to increase my mindfulness meditation.
     
  8. silex_jedi

    silex_jedi Fapstronaut

    LOL... but also true.
     
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  9. stoxx

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    O tak.590 dni wolny.
     
  10. Don80

    Don80 Fapstronaut

    Thanks you for the list. That's a game changer. It can be an emergency aid when an urge comes.
     
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