I find myself turning to PMO whenever I get annoyed or frustrated. Anything I can do to stop my brain instantly thinking to PMO?
Try to spend a longer and longer period of time sitting with the feelings before running from them. Eventually your resolve will last longer than the feeling.
Do you do something now that involves tolerating discomfort? Cold shower is good for that, I don't see it as much about reducing urges as getting centered without reacting. But don't just go with one simple thing, it's much better to prevent it and that's just one exercise. It would be good if you can ask yourself why you're frustrated, and even write and keep a record of it all. Even if it's after the fact, if you learn something about yourself from it you're in a better position the next time you are frustrated. Proactive and not just reactive solutions, and keep adjusting the approach.
I also PMO when I'm overly frustrated/stressed out. As well as bored, anxious, unstimulated. I live with my girlfriend and when I'm trying to abstain from PMO, I find myself being a huge jerk, super irritable, unable to find any calm. I'll say things to her like "are you going to sit on the couch all day and be lazy?" and not even understand why I did it. To be fair, she is supposed to be doing things, but so am I. I think subconsciously I wanted her to get mad and leave the room I was in because I felt like a spiny urchin. my irritation levels are so high that even her presence annoys tf out of me. anyways, sorry for hijacking your thread.
When you masturbate or relapse to porn it may make you feel better in that moment but afterwards its makes you feel much worse so think about that when you decide to use Porn as a coping mechanism and also what is causing you to feel frustrated and stressed because if you remove that from your life or find other ways to deal with stress and frustration such as mediation or by taking action in certain situations or even by letting your emotions be you wont feel like relapsing.
Good advice man! Thank you for that! Honestly, I was doing well a few weeks ago. I had gone like 15 days without PMO, but I just started taking meds for my acne, and one of the potential side effects is impotence, so when for the first time in weeks I woke up without an erection, I panicked the fuck out. I baited just to try see if it was working out of sheer panic, and then I got hooked back into the PMO cycle after that. The frustration thing I'd say often comes from body dysmorphia, but it can be other things too. If something really gets under my skin, I can tend to use PMO as a coping mechanism, which is just an awful way to react. Making a concerted effort starting now to get back on my shit.
I need to get back into doing cold showers honestly. Not that cold showers will solve all of my problems, but they get the ball rolling and start off my day with a small win, which can help me build momentum for the rest of the day. I should probably also journal when I feel frustration, instead of just turning to PMO, because that only makes things worse. Thank you for taking the time to comment!
Honestly man, thank you for your comment! Hopefully you can try not to be a jerk to your girlfriend haha. I know the feel of the irritation levels though, because I can get like that, and just lash out at people for literally no reason.
Yeah you're 100% right. Meditation is another practice I really need to start doing again. I've kinda fallen off the wagon with the self improvement stuff recently, so I really need to get back onto those practices again. Think I'm also gonna journal whenever I sense feelings of frustration, instead of instantly turning to PMO again, like that does any good...
I have to say that I got a lot better after that day. I was able to stay away from pmo through several days of stressful events. so that's pretty good. however, I just relapsed today. I'm disappointed bc I noticed the longer you go without pmo, the easier and less intense are the withdrawal symptoms (mainly: irritation, frustration). now today I had boredom. and was triggered by a Snapchat story. one of those "oh nice car! what do you do for a living?" I swear most of those are just ads for onlyfans girls. and you can't turn off Snapchat stories so I need to just learn to avoid them. I'm going to try to get back on the horse and keep going at my previous streak. best wishes.
Yeah man I get you. I often get triggers from social media (twitter mostly) then end up going to an omegle-like site and doing the deed. Need to keep grinding and eliminate that shit from my life. We in this together!
That was the same for me my first week of abstince from PMO. The second week got much better. I guess you kind of have to live through that anger and irritation, because if you are angry or irritated there must be a good reason. Maybe you are even right to be angry at your GF, although probably not because she's sitting on the couch all day. But it's really hard, I hear what you are saying. I can only manage because I'm separated from my wife and the girl that I see lives in another country, so I can afford to be a jerk with the postman or my work colleagues LOL. It will go away, though, it's just a matter of getting in touch with the real sources of that anger and transform the sexual energy to do something better than jerking off. Good luck.
