Problem with premature ejaculation that I caused to myself

Hello! I am new member here at nofap.
I open this thread to discuss a problem(and maybe find a solution) that I have with premature ejaculation.

First of all I am 25 years old, male and virgin. I stopped watching porn and masturbate almost 4 years ago and in this period sometimes(but not often) I watched only porn images at google(I think the last time was the previous Summer) or almost nude women on instagram but without fapping. Also, I do not masturbate at all for this period(only rarely but without porn).

I am facing some psychologically issues(mostly low self-esteem) which they have nothing to do with porn or at least in my case there were other things that caused them and not only porn. I started doing psychotherapy 1 year ago.
So I have problem with premature ejaculation that I caused to myself when I am in a young age, and this is the first time that I talk about that because I am feeling uncomfortable and embarrasing about my situation.

When I was in my puberty and started fapping I do not have a problem with premature ejaculation, but I try to do "the job" quickly because I don't want anyone to see me. As time passes and start watching porn, again I try to do "the job" quickly and that caused me stress.

Apart from that the MAIN REASON that I believe caused me premature ejaculation is:
When I was watching porn I was rushing to fap and ejaculate and I find a scene in the video that I liked a lot. Then I play the video some seconds/minutes before that scene and rushing to ejaculate seeing that scene. This is the reason I tell that I caused the problem to myself.

Is anyone dealing with the same problem?
Does anyone have a solution for that or something that helps?

Thank you

 

Thank you for your answer, seeing someone who faces the same problem as me makes me feel a little bit of consolation.
Unfortunately no, 4 years of abstinence didn't help me. I know that I suffer now because as I wrote before " I do not masturbate at all for this period(only rarely but without porn) " so the times that I do it I ejaculate really fast.
I believe that abstinence alone does not help because premature ejaculation is mainly a "mental problem" who needs the right treatment.
In our case maybe we need something different from the people who have the problem but they don't caused it to themselves.
Also, I think that I have a sensitivity in my penis and balls that is bigger than normal(the sensitivity) and the abstinence maybe makes the problem worse.
When you say "Never test yourself" you mean that I must not masturbate just to test if I ejaculate quickly?
Do you have the same problem when you do sex?

 

Can anyone else who have the same problem or generally a problem with premature ejaculation help?

 

Thank you for your answer.

In the past I thought about the same thing you said that maybe I have PE only when I masturbate and not with a partner but I didn't believe that something like that is possible. Now I consider that is possible and maybe it applies in my case.
Well, because of my low self-esteem and some other reasons (I have low self-esteem mainly for other reasons not only PE) it is difficult for me to find a girlfriend and keep a relationship, I never tried it in my life.
So I try to find a solution to cure the problem of PE on my own and then when I find a girlfriend to be ready for doing sex.
I am not sure if solving the problem on my own is possible (I hope to find something helpful) and the acclimation therapy you recommend is the best solution but someone can apply it only if he have a partner.