Hi, I like to swim and go swimming all the time. Trouble is, I'm attracted to guys and I see them in the change rooms and well, now it's a real problem. I'm doing no PMO. Does seeing them count as P? Also if I get aroused, lately because I'm not doing M or O, my hard wood takes forever to stop being hard and it's really embarrassing at the pool or at the gym to get hard now because it takes so long to go away and people can see it. I don't really know what to do. Any suggestions? I usually wear fitted swim jammers but then you can see things so um, do you think I should try board shorts or do you have other ideas? Thanks! Andy
Where do you swim? Is it a public pool? Maybe where you live there's a 24/hour gym with a pool area. If you were to go extra early before most people get there, that might help to reduce the likely hood of you seeing other men OR other people seeing your unmentionables. Of course, that depends on your situation.
I swim several times a week. I see men and women in various stages of (un)dress. That by itself doesn’t mean anything. We’re all just there to swim. @Vizsla Dad , another avid swimmer, and I occasionally reflect on activities beyond that that might be questionable. If your body reacts, it generally is not a problem if you are not harboring malice or acting inappropriately. Relax. Get your exercise. Only if it becomes problematic should you worry.
IMO... Seeing other people and looking at other people are 2 different things. I swim with a team and have a coach... etc... I'm there to swim. I can't get distracted by other swimmers and expect to get a good workout. Part of my training is in mindset. Stay focused on the sport, not the participants. It's difficult... but can be done. Also, I wear board shorts. It helps me not only stay focused but also I'm pretty certain no one is looking at me either. Final thought: as you practice Semen Retention (aka No PMO) you'll discover more control over MW and the inconvenient unwanted erection. Plus, Semen Retention makes a man a stronger athlete. (True) Check this guy out. - He swims naked. - Strong AF
I go to a public pool and they have set hours, so it's not 24 hours but I could look for another place to try swimming.
Ok thanks, I was so scared about that. I am using cold showers to try and stop the hards when it happens. It makes me shiver a lot though as the water there is like ice, but that does the trick.
Thanks for the tips. I did end up buying some board shorts. I'm not used to them and when I was walking on the pool deck the other day, they slid down below my hip bones a few times. There's no belt or elastic to these and I'm skinny so that's a new problem I'll have to figure out, how to keep them from sliding down all the time. Once they get wet though, you can see everything, maybe I just bought the wrong style? I am trying to stay focused yes, the hardest part is the showers when a few of us are there and we see each other's parts and all. I just get hard, but i'm putting the water to cold if that happens. One of the guys said my abs were turning blue the other day when I was in the cold shower so I don't know if I should keep doing that lol. I really need help with MW and unwanted erections because they last too long now and I have to wait. I woke up at 6:45 this morning and MW took about half an hour to go away and when it did, I got up and put on my underwear so I could walk down the hall and as I was in the hall, it got hard again :-( had to run back to my room and wait, and here I am on nofap hoping for solutions lol.
Being attracted to real person is a good thing. actually if you start liking real humans and not pixels; thats a good thing. And Im sure if you stop swimming, the energy\lust(?) will pent up very much in you and you will end up going back to porn Do you want to stay celibate or find a romantic partner? Just keep in mind most people do nofap to get a partner and not PMO. I do celibate SR but Im aware im part of a minority party
I think I'd like to (hope and believe) that I will find a partner some day who will accept me for who I am and be supportive. I lost a partner to PMO so am trying to do no PMO to get my life back on track.
I appreciate you sharing your struggles, it helps me to see my own. I hope that sharing my experience might help you and am inspired by your commitment to swimming. I first started trying to quit masturbating over a decade ago. I remember walking with my co-workers and getting erections that would then start to rub against my pants as I walked, pushing me to the brink of O. A few times I had to make some awkward excuse to stop! I have more experiences than I should probably share (for me, over time, I stopped getting embarrassing erections so much, but struggled with involuntary O's, often without a full erection - even at work and at the gym). The good news: It gets better with time. I used to PMO every day. My body was used to that and got extremely sensitive when I stopped. Now my body is used to not having sexual release all the time. I imagine that getting older has something to do with it as well . . . who knew? I now have at least one reason to appreciate getting older - less of those embarrassing public boners. Hope that helps you. It definitely helps me.
