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Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by fusion47, Nov 12, 2023.

  1. fusion47

    fusion47 Fapstronaut

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    I have feeling for my coworker, but after we realized we got along maybe TOO well she told me that we can only be work friends. She has a bf of 4 years (which is another reason) so its a bit complicated. However, ive been working on self improvement and i want to ask her for her social media (she had to block me last time). Is this a bad idea? Should i let her go? I relly want to be her friend.
     
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  2. I'd say, let her go. You'll find someone else when the time is right.
     
  3. Things might get ugly if you continue pursuing her. I recommend moving on and finding someone who is single.
     
  4. If she already blocked you from her social media, she probably had a reason for it. I would not ask her about it. Remain her work friend and that is all The other thing is that if you start pushing her with following her on social media she might take it as harassment and go to HR, and then you have a whole other issue to deal with and that is not worth it.
     
  5. I'm sorry to tell you this but...

    Usually when a female answers you negatively like : "no", "let's be friends", "give me space".

    It means you will never get intercourse with her.

    I'm a virgin and I can tell when no means no.
     
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  6. LostSon41

    LostSon41 Fapstronaut

    Not true - “no,” and “let’s be friends,” aren’t permanent. However, it will be if you forcibly pursue them any further. Listening to the girl and staying friends with her might increase the chances in the future of being with her, but I personally would recommend to ditch clinging to that hope and look for someone else to be with. Because she’s not gonna change her mind when you want her to.
     
  7. fusion47

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    I just wanted for things to go back to the way they were. I made new social media today, she actually helped a but because im trying to advertise a new club, but she immediately blocked me on both. I asked why but she kept saying she didnt have a reason. I asked if we're good and she said yeah, but she said that "she doesnt want that". I dont know. This hurts. I wanted to at least show her i can be mature about what happened
     
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  8. Abandon All Hope ... your chances of getting that girl are very slim.

    I'm truly sorry... You have my sympathies ...

    Don't worry you can always find another girl.
    Who knows ? You may come across a girl who is 10 times better & she will show you a good time.

    You deserve someone who doesn't consider you a secondary option ...
     
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  9. fusion47

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    Im not so sure man. Thank you for the quick reply, i have bad anxiety so it helps.
    The truth is im working on accepting that i'll never be with her. I dont think she has any feelings for me. I just wanted to be her friend at least. Not just work friends. I want to text and talk and stuff. Still, her decision is understandable. So why does this hurt so much? It feels like i cant breath and tears are welling up. I know that low dopamine makes your mood unstable, but still. Why is it that im never good enough? I just want for someone, at least once, to fight for me. If i was worth it than the people ive known would still want to know me
     
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  10. You shouldn't feel sad about someone who takes you for granted,
    Forget about her ! Don't become her friend.
    Don't worry, you are not the only one who got rejected a billion times.
    Do you know how many times I got rejected ? More than I can count. Yet here I am standing ready to give my best shot at life.
    As long as you are breathing there is still hope for a better futur.
    It's okay to cry, Find a room where you are alone and let it all out bro ...
     
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  11. You are very young, you are only 21.
    You got your whole life ahead of you.
    Work on yourself to become better each day AND actively socialise with people everywhere.
    I guarantee you will find a girl who will eat you alive.
     
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  12. Prophet Harry

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    Leave her alone, dude... Never be someone's second option.

    Maybe you will find someone better than her. Be positive!
     
  13. fusion47

    fusion47 Fapstronaut

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    I feel like im hanging on by a thread. I dont feel like i have the rest of my life. It feels like its all going to end soon unless i find a reason to keep going. Who else is there anyway? I truly just cant believe that i'll find anyone.
     
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  16. You okay bro ?

    Don't hesitate to share your feelings.

    You were feeling awful yesterday. Are you feeling any better today ?
     
  17. fusion47

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    Kind of. I dont feel mad or sad really, just in class existing. The girl and her bf are going to keep treating me coldly i think. That sucks. I wish i had someone who will always be there
     
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  18. If you want someone who will always be there, getting the woman who would leave her current boyfriend for another man probably isn't the best candidate.
     
  19. She isn't the only girl in the world. SNAP OUT OF THIS MENTALITY ...

    We are 8 billion people on this planet. That means there are a ton of girls and women.

    You will find someone better.

    Quit hanging out with this girl and his boyfriend. If you are doing that you are basically training yourself to be a cuck.

    You need to become the best & you need to respect yourself.
    If this girl doesn't provide what you want then you should walk away ...

    I suggest you walk away from these guys permanently.

    If a girl rejects you, forgiveness is not an option ! AND it's her mistake ! there is nothing wrong with you.

    Amen to that !
     
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  20. fusion47

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    Thank you for the kind message, it means a lot. However i just relapsed very, very badly again. Same stufd ive done before, very degenerate and disgusting. I am on the verge of a mental breakdown. This is an sos. Please help. This happened because i made my coworker a music playlist, and i saw that she unliked it. I am feeling very suicidal right now. I dont know what to do.
     
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